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[forgottenhope]

is it common for one to believe they love someone because they are so dependant on them? instead of a desire to be together? their lives are so integrated that for one to exist by itself seems too difficult? therefore they think they are in love? that love is measured in the how hard it is to be away from each other rather than how good it is to be

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Pooey.

[_blackhalo_]

The play I'm in is all about this:

The Shadows in the Mirror by Paul Welch:

"D: Do you think it works the other way?
E: You mean, that you can choose to be around someone you don't love?
D: Yes.
E: I think far too many people do that. Every day.
D: Why?
E: Safety, comfort, habit. We're so afraid of change.
D: Are we?
E: I think so. I think we're so afraid of change, and because of that terror, we choose to stay even if we don't love.
D: That makes me sad.
E: What?
D: That people are afraid to love. That they're so afraid of change, of being alone, that they choose to stay with people they don't love.
E: Does that surprise you?
D: No... It doesn't - not really. It's just sad. Imagine what things would be like if we didn't let our fear control us, if we didn't let our fear of change keep us with people that we didn't love."

It's not breaking copyrights or anything, so that's cool. I just thought I'd give you a taste (in context) for the play I'm in, as you probably won't be able to get down here to see it.

[_blackhalo_]

I'm D, by the way

[forgottenhope]

hmm, i think i like already.

Sorry to Be The Bearer of Bad Replys, but...

[bay_boy]

ABSO-FUCKIN-LUTELY!

NO QUESTION!

I think anyone who has been down the serious relationship road more than once or twice can attest to this. It is usually an early in life long term relationship that people find themselves in, or one of the last... or in worst case scenarios BOTH ie: my parents.

We have all had at least one of these, those that say they haven't are either:

a) still in it, or

b) unable to reflect objectively or critically on their own love life mistakes, and are therefore doomed to repeat them.

The trick is to notice it and do something about it lest you end up in your fifties with little or no life experience, and a couple of kids.

Cheers.

Re: Sorry to Be The Bearer of Bad Replys, but...

[forgottenhope]

oh no worries, the bad news isnt for me. its for the all the horribly silly people around me who wont listen to me!

[crazy_caramel]

Yes! Yes yes yes yes yes! and I've seen situation's where people recognize that it may be a possibility but continue to remain in the relationship for fear of being alone. Long distance relationships especially because the relationship is a conmnection to home; something familiar and reliable.

[forgottenhope]

yes! yes yes! i agree!
and people who continue even though they recognize the possiblity are just making the situation worse and making the inevitable even more difficult bc their lives get more and more integrated!
i dont understand why people do it, it makes me sad =(