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[flamingophoenix]

A good Fraywatch on Slate recently. "Why is it so hard to say what everyone knows, namely, that there is an entire world between the two extremes of religiously-enforced abstinence until an arbitrary offical ceremony on the one hand, and random no-holds-barred fucking everything in sight on the other - a world in which, incidentally, the majority

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[springphoenix]

Mostly true, though I disagree with "arbitrary official ceremony." Sure you can make it that way if you want, but a lot of people don't, and for a very important reason: a marriage on its own is not as strong as a marriage backed by all the family and friends of the couple. That, to me, is the single most important point of a wedding.

[flamingophoenix]

I very much agree that the point of a wedding is to have all your friends and family around you, as a symbolic thing about the support the marriage will enjoy from the rest of the community--but I don't think everyone feels this way. Lots of weddings are "just to make my family happy" or whatever, and that definitely makes it arbitrary.

But this is the good kind of discussion!