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[flamingophoenix]

My Father Was An Anonymous Sperm Donor. No, not my father, the father of the article writer.

I see her point, especially about sperm donation, but I'm worried that people will make the same point about single women adopting, which when you think about the alternatives (for example, an orphanage in Romania) seems like a pretty damn good deal for

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[oobermeister]

maybe it would have turned out different if she had had a father figure, coz there did not appear to be one at all, that is, she would not have cared who her biological father was. my guess is that a good chunk of knuckle children need to know their biological roots while another good chunk don't give a rats ass. probably just depends on personal circumstances. still, i think adoption is a better option.

[oobermeister]

then again with adoption, u don't know who either parent is where as with being a knuckle child, you know who one parent is. hmmmm

[hulkingmanchild]

One thing to be careful about, with sperm donation -- about a year and a half ago, a case hit the newswaves about a sperm donor who was being sued by the mother of their child for child support payments! From what I recall, the two were an ex-couple, but the donor had no interest in becoming a father, and his relationship to the mother was now platonic. When the mother lost her job, though, she hired an attorney to collect on several years' backlog of child support payments that had never been part of the original agreement. The question became: if the mother won this case, would all recipients of non-anonymous sperm donation be able to be held legally responsible for the financial welfare of a child they had no connection to, or even knowledge of

[monrovianvogue]

The whole biological family's medical history thing is pretty key though, regardless. In my cousin's case, it would have been helpful to know about the rampant mental illness so we could have been watching/screening for that.

[darkgwyddion]

From terms of medical history, I think it is important to know who the father is.

But I think that had there been a father figure in her life, I don't think she would have had this burning anger - from what I could tell from her writing, that's what really seemed to be missing. (Her arguments with her "step-dad" are more of the result of a blended family issue rather than a sperm-donation case. That was one thing I didn't like about the article - she seemed to be blaming many things on her biological roots. I also disliked how she seemed to pin the majority of the blame on her anonymous father. Granted, her mother had been there for her, but her mother had also made the decision to go through with it).

I don't know any sperm-donation families, I'll admit. The closest I have is my cousin - my aunt got pregnant but never married the father. Luckily, the two remained on amicable terms, thus my cousin did get a sort of father figure.