Yikes

[flametwirler]

I think I finally learned how to say 'no'. Yay me.

Comments

[knittingknots]

That is always a good and useful, although sometimes hard, thing to learn...good for you!

[flametwirler]

Haha, well not always good (though I'm learning) but at least it's useful sometimes!

[madmiko]

That's always a good lesson to learn--unfortunately, I still seem to have a hard time with it. You've got me curious regarding the circumstances. My inability usually results in me slogging through a really, REALLY badfic, featuring a pairing I hate, and trying to give encouraging concrit. (Or else making spaghetti for the entire high school boys soccer team, or breakfast for the college basketball team, or pizza rolls and cookies for my son's "band" at midnight. LOL!)

[flametwirler]

Hn, well I kind of gave a rundown of the catalyst under maxwell's comment, but I've always been a pushover in the small things as well. Sometimes it makes me feel good to help out, other times it gets me all bitter for the day because I really don't want to do it but feel obligated to anyhow.

Meh. Doesn't mean I should necessarily say no to those things but turning down things from time to time would probably lessen the build up of feeling put upon. (This is really only after twenty some odd years of life building up. I've never had as much trouble with it as this year but I also think that my medical situation has just flattened out my patience so I'm much less amenable than I used to be. Oopsie.)

I've just always felt there were two categories I could fall into: pushover or bitch. I'm now learning that there has to be more grey matter than that and will hopefully become more balanced in the future. (I definitely don't want to bounce to the opposite end!)

[doggieearlover]

Learning to say "no" is a valuable and useful tool. Good for you. Use it discriminately but use it well.

[flametwirler]

Hn, yes, the discrimination is the hard part. In the interim while learning the line I'm pretty sure I'll be waffling between push-over and bitch but eventually we all learn, ne?

Or at least I hope so ^_- Haha.

[drjmaxwell]

I think you've always been able to do it. This must have been something special. You'll need to elaborate.

[flametwirler]

As far as elaboration...hm

[drjmaxwell]

Can I borrow $2,000?