Family Drama and Memories

[fixnwrtr]

Allyson Gross is my 2nd cousin by way of her mother, Bobbi Jean. I never met her since I had moved away from Columbus when she was little and there wasn't much contact between my family and Bobbi Jean's as we went our separate ways. I remember once just after she married Gross, her favorite word in the whole world, and evidently her favorite person

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[ladycelia]

How tragic for them.

Haven't seen you here in a long time. How are things with you?

[fixnwrtr]

Death of someone young does seem to make it more poignant and painful. My daughter-in-law is going through emotional avalanches though my grandson, Connor, died 4 years ago. Losing a child never gets any better, especially when the child leaves behind a twin sister as Connor did. Sierra is growing up and changing almost daily and Connor will always be just past his 2nd birthday and gone. I can't help wondering how much he would have changed as he nears his 6th birthday like Sierra. I have brief moments of disappointment and anger towards the man who caused Connor's death, and nearly Sierra's, and towards his other grandmother who refused to raise him or keep him while my son and Julie, his mom, got their addictions and problems under control. She was willing to keep Sierra and Alanna, as she eventually did, but not Connor. Connor was too much she said and so they were put out to foster and Connor died, poisoned with liquid Benadryl to keep Connor and Sierra calm and easier to handle by his foster father, which eventually resulted in

[ladycelia]

I'm so sorry that you're hurting. I can't even imagine what it would be like to lose a child or grandchild. I was listening to NPR this morning, and on Story Corps the people had been involved in the accidental death of a child. The man had shot his sister when they were children. It had been 26 years, and both he and his mother are still terribly affected by it. I remember when Connor died. I don't remember what happened to the foster parent. Did he end up going to jail?

Thank you for the birthday wishes.

Since I no longer have internet access at home, save for what I can manage on my telephone, it's very difficult to post anything of substance here. Plus it's pretty much a ghost town. There are a few diehards like me around, but not many. I treasure the friendships that I forged here. I find myself using Facebook because it's easy on the phone. But it's not the same, even though many of my oldest friends are there.

I'm at work, and best get back to it. Take care of yourself.

[fixnwrtr]

As in the rest of the world, nothing happened to the foster father. He still visits Connor's grave and lashes himself on Facebook. I was tired of keeping silent and letting him parade his grieving over Connor's death and how he felt responsible, so I messaged him privately and told him what I knew and what i thought of him and then blocked him and visit FB less often. I find that my taste for FB comaraderie and sense of community or positive feelings about FB have lessened with time and proximity. The year I took off from FB has left me with fewer thoughts of how important and needful FB is to the community zeitgeist.

I still enjoy reading your posts and am thinking seriously about getting back to more faithful posting on LJ. Don't hold your breath. The feeling may pass.