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[fitz_clementine]

Oh, and-- in response to the post I made about autism and empathy a couple weeks ago, my friend luai_lashire sent me this in an e-mail:

...Along the lines of "autistics have empathy, but show it differently", I saw a report once about a study where autistic kids and NT kids were asked a series of questions about how they would act in certain situations; one of

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[chaos_by_design]

The thing is though, depending on why the mother was crying, emptying the dishwasher or making her something might be the perfect response. It really depends on the person.

Usually talking to the person is a good idea, but not always. Sometimes when a person's upset they don't really want to talk about it anyway, but doing something for them can seem like a nice gesture that shows you care.

[fitz_clementine]

It does depend on the person, which is why I'm inclined to think that, often, thinking a response through based on what you know about an individual's wants and needs is actually the better tack. It's good and very useful to be acquainted with social scripts and behavioral norms too, of course. What irritates me is when a lack of ability in the latter area is painted as an all-around incapacity for kindness and empathy.

Also! I have no idea who you are, how you found this, or why you would want to read it, but hello! :D

[chaos_by_design]

What irritates me is when a lack of ability in the latter area is painted as an all-around incapacity for kindness and empathy.

Me too! I'm bad at knowing things without being told but feel very bad when I inadvertently hurt people because of that lack of knowledge.

Also! I have no idea who you are, how you found this, or why you would want to read it, but hello! :D

Oh yeah, I found this post from AWV's blog. I'm a common geek who's self-diagnosed with NLD who hangs out on asperger.