Yesterday

[fimbrethil]

Each 9/11 is different for us. This year was hard all around. For some reason, this one hit Bree and I harder than last year did. For a week leading up to it we both had hard emotional days. I found myself having WTC nightmares again and even had a couple of anxiety attacks. Bree went off with her boyfriend this year and saw a comedy show in the

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[kshandra]

Thank you for sharing your day here.

I spent my day wanting to apologize to you. I said several thoughtless things to you and to others about your grief process early on. The only one who gets to decide how long it takes is you, and I was utterly wrong to think or suggest otherwise. I am deeply sorry to have caused you more hurt.

[fimbrethil]

Grief follows its own course, it is not a decision on the part of the griever how long it will take or what direction it will go. It is not my decision to hurt this much 14 years later. If grief has a GPS, it plays silly buggers with us all the time. Grief is not linear and does not give the griever a choice. It just is and we, the grievers, are forced to follow where it leads us.

[kshandra]

...and in attempting to make amends, all I've done is stick my foot further into my mouth. I should have simply apologized and left it at that.

[fimbrethil]

You should have just left it alone because I forgot about the whole incident a long time ago and moved on. Forgetting is easy, forgiving is not.

[coyotegoth]

*hug*

[fimbrethil]

Hugs back at you.

[grr_rob]

Thought of you a lot that day. Glad it sounds like it went well and provided some of what you needed.

[fimbrethil]

Thank you for your thoughts. It did go better than I expected. I'm glad too.

[hopeforyou]

I thought of you and Harry that day.

It sounds like you did a good number of things to honour Liam's memory, and spend time together with your own grief and memories.

The carousel sounds magical. I would love to see it someday. I'm glad to hear the Slaughtered Lamb is still around -- I used to eat there now and then with my ex-husband (and sometimes out-of-town visitors) when I lived uptown.

[fimbrethil]

Thank you. It was what we needed.

www.thebattery.org/seaglass/ It was so beautiful. Pricey at $5 a ride or 10 for $45 but still worth it.

Alas The Slaughtered Lamb is a shadow of its old self. Liam and I loved going there too and the food, while bar food, was a step above most bars. Now the menu is limited to mainly wings and a few greasy burgers. Most people just go there to drink. It makes me sad because it used to be a really good place to sit, eat and hang but now the music is much too loud if you want to chat over dinner.