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[fimbrethil]

Grief, being the sly bastard it is, sneaks up on you sometimes. I'm struggling with so many things right now and the grief makes things so much harder. I'm constantly reminded of what I no longer have and tired of being served up platitudes consisting of things like "It will get better", "Live in the present" and "If something's no longer in your

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[wcg]

I can't do much other than read what you write, and respect the authenticity of it all. But I do that. There's an awful lot of nonsense posted on LJ every day, and your genuine feelings and thoughts stand out vividly among it all.

[fimbrethil]

Yes, Bill, you do. And you've stood by me and continued to be supportive through the years and a good listening ear. Thank you.

[kristenj]

There are times when I wish I knew the exactly perfect, right thing to say. But the reality is that there are times when there is no perfect thing to say, when words do not suffice. I want to say that I hear you, that I am listening. I want to tell you to honor yourself, your feelings, your memories, the whole of your landscape and journey. I want to tell you that everyone grieves in their own way at their own pace, and to ignore the "shoulds." But I also want to acknowledge how hard it is to separate oneself from the impact of negative forces from other people (even when they think they are being well-intentioned.) If I were there I would give you the biggest hug that I could, and let that communicate all that words cannot.

[fimbrethil]

Thank you for this. Hugs.

[pbristow]

[LISTENS]
[NODS]
[HUGS]

[fimbrethil]

Thank you, as always.

[irontongue]

Oooooh. A hand on your shoulder. No, you are not supposed to put your life with Liam in a box and "move on." How could you? He is part of you and will always be with you. He is vivid in your heart, your memory, your words here.

My experience has been that grief is different for each of us and different with each of those we've lost. For me, grief may change over time, but it will still be there to some degree, always.

[fimbrethil]

My experience has been that grief is different for each of us and different with each of those we've lost. For me, grief may change over time, but it will still be there to some degree, always.

Yes, this. I wish more people undrstood this like you do.

[fimbrethil]

I hate that you get it and glad that someone like you understands. Thank you, Kathy.