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fimbrethil

Mom update

Oct 20, 2011 06:35

Mom was transferred to a rehab facility yesterday. The hospital's original discharge plan was to send her home. Home. Alone. With balance, coordination and cognitive issues. Home. FFS. Anyway, Howard was the one who answered that phone call so being the pit bull he can be when it comes to matters like this, he told the case worker that wasn't ( Read more... )

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pbristow October 20 2011, 12:55:31 UTC

[NODS]

[HUGS]

fimbrethil October 20 2011, 18:46:06 UTC

Thank you, Paul.

hugh_mannity October 20 2011, 13:08:38 UTC

Yes, difficult though it is, now is the time to find a place for her. The last thing you want to have to do is find one in a hurry. You'll be better able to evaluate places if you're not rushing to find one.

I'm sorry, this is so hard. I was very lucky as my mum was widowed in 1970 (aged 47) and so made her own arrangements long before she needed them. She moved to Norwich (England) because there was a 20 year residency requirement for The Great Hospital and she'd decided that was where she wanted to go. And she did. And they took excellent care of her.

I wish you all the best in looking for somewhere for your mum.

fimbrethil October 20 2011, 18:44:19 UTC

I agree with you.

We are definitely going to start the legwork now. I can't imagine Mom being happy with any decision I make but i will look for the best care I can find.

hugh_mannity October 20 2011, 20:06:05 UTC

I doubt she'll be happy about moving into a care situation, even if she chose the place herself. I know I won't be when my time comes. I like my home. I don't want to live in a place that's run by other people's rules and for other people's convenience.

However... the time comes when you gotta do it.

If you can do the legwork then let her choose from a pre-selected short list, that might help her feel like the decision hasn't entirely been taken out of her hands.

Good luck!

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fimbrethil October 20 2011, 18:43:00 UTC

Actually, it's both for me. Granted the forgetting things is scary but her balance issues are so severe she can't navigate her apartment alone or even consider going up and down her stairs. I'm hoping being around people and getting therapy will bring her back to a better state of mind but I'm realistic about it as well. We are going to start doing the research for a nursing home while she is in rehab.

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fimbrethil October 20 2011, 18:54:08 UTC

I agree with you though, about the cognitive stuff. I really don't want her accidentally burning down the house. Right now, she's just forgetful and confused but she's overwhelmed too and that's enough for me to consider permanent placement.

Heh, thank you. I don't feel awesome, to be honest. Just absolutely overwhelmed.