Let's play a game.
Which one doesn't belong?
a. You can be squicked by KinkA in Real Life, but love KinkA fics, that's perfectly alright.
b. You can be squicked by rape in Real Life, but love rapefics, that's perfectly alright.
c. You can be squicked by pedophilia in Real Life, but love lolicon/shotacon fics, that's perfectly alright.
d. You can be squicked by BDSM in Real Life, but love BDSM fics, that's perfectly alright.
e. If you like yaoi/yuri/slash in fiction, but are squicked by homosexuality in Real Life, you're a (edit) douchebag hypocrit.
f. You can be squicked by incest in Real Life, but love incest fics, that's perfectly alright.
g. You can be squicked by ThingB in Real Life, but love ThingB fics, that's perfectly alright.
Edit3: okay, scratch this part, because it makes it look like I'm comparing homosexuality to all those other things, which I am NOT! My point in this rant is not to compare the objects of the squicks or moral objections themselves, but the way the squick/kink dichotomies are considered.
Now, I understand that there's a world of difference between homosexuality and all those other things I mentioned, just like there is a world of difference between those other things themselves. For example:
* Unlike rape and child abuse, homosexuality is consensual (but so is BDSM, and incest too sometimes).
* Unlike rape and BDSM, homosexuality is a sexual orientation, an inherent part of someone's make-up (but so, arguably, is pedophilia for some pedophiles who are truly sexually attracted only to pre-pubescent bodies).
* Unlike all the others, yaoi/yuri/slash is not fully treated as a kink anymore. But that's mostly because there is so much of it, and the fact that there are still yaoi-only or no-yaoi archives indicates that it hasn't fully lost its kink status yet.
I also understand that the idea that something as important as one's sexual orientation could be treated as nothing more than a kink by someone else, must feel annoying, denigrating, offensive, even humiliating and so on. But unfortunately, that's what kinks are all about: people finding pleasure and excitement in something that isn't originally designed to provide such excitement. Some people have a kink for, say, colour-mixed couples, which I'm sure most other people would find offensive, but hey, it's their kink and they are entitled to it.
And finally, yes, I fully understand that it must be puzzling, disappoiting, even disheartening, to discover that someone who supports fictional same-sex couples does not support Real Life ones. But supporting homosexuality in RL is not a pre-requisite to liking yaoi - no, really, it's not.
To conclude:
1. Kinks are kinks are kinks.
2. Kinks are NOT an expression of someone's beliefs, convictions or morals. In fact, they often go against them, that's often part of what makes them exciting in the first place.
3. Kinks are most often not logical, and don't have to be (so, for example, liking yaoi but not yuri is perfectly fine).
4. FICTION IS NOT REAL LIFE.
5. Last but certainly not least: yaoi IS a kink in and of itself for many yaoi readers/writers. It's a widespread kink, but it's still a kink. I mean, I seriously doubt that most of those women who write/read/enjoy yaoi would rather watch their husband have hawt buttsecks with another man, than have het sex with him themselves...
So, can we PLEASE go back to "I won't assume to know what you think of IssueA in Real Life just because you happen to like IssueA fics"? It cuts both ways: just like we shouldn't assume that someone supports incest in RL because they happen to like incest fics, we also shouldn't assume that they support homosexuality in RL just because they like yaoi. It might be a confusing mindset, but it's still a perfectly valid one, and it doesn't make such people (edit) douchebags hypocrits.
ETA: I'm not sure what I've said wrong, but apparently it seems like I'm saying that homosexuality itself is a kink. I'm NOT. I'm saying yaoi is a kink to some people. Homosexuality is a RL sexual orientation. Yaoi is a fictional kink to some people. Not the same thing - which is pretty much the point of my rant.
Edited again to change "douchebag" to "hypocrit", as my beef in this rant is not with whether being squicked by homosexuality in RL qualifies one for douchebaggery, but with the perceived hypocrisy in being squicked by homosexuality in RL while liking yaoi in fiction, even though the very same squick/kink dichotomy is usually seen as acceptable for any other issue.
a. You can be squicked by KinkA in Real Life, but love KinkA fics, that's perfectly alright.
b. You can be squicked by rape in Real Life, but love rapefics, that's perfectly alright.
c. You can be squicked by pedophilia in Real Life, but love lolicon/shotacon fics, that's perfectly alright.
d. You can be squicked by BDSM in Real Life, but love BDSM fics, that's perfectly alright.
e. If you like yaoi/yuri/slash in fiction, but are squicked by homosexuality in Real Life, you're a (edit) douchebag hypocrit.
f. You can be squicked by incest in Real Life, but love incest fics, that's perfectly alright.
g. You can be squicked by ThingB in Real Life, but love ThingB fics, that's perfectly alright.
Edit3: okay, scratch this part, because it makes it look like I'm comparing homosexuality to all those other things, which I am NOT! My point in this rant is not to compare the objects of the squicks or moral objections themselves, but the way the squick/kink dichotomies are considered.
Now, I understand that there's a world of difference between homosexuality and all those other things I mentioned, just like there is a world of difference between those other things themselves. For example:
* Unlike rape and child abuse, homosexuality is consensual (but so is BDSM, and incest too sometimes).
* Unlike rape and BDSM, homosexuality is a sexual orientation, an inherent part of someone's make-up (but so, arguably, is pedophilia for some pedophiles who are truly sexually attracted only to pre-pubescent bodies).
* Unlike all the others, yaoi/yuri/slash is not fully treated as a kink anymore. But that's mostly because there is so much of it, and the fact that there are still yaoi-only or no-yaoi archives indicates that it hasn't fully lost its kink status yet.
I also understand that the idea that something as important as one's sexual orientation could be treated as nothing more than a kink by someone else, must feel annoying, denigrating, offensive, even humiliating and so on. But unfortunately, that's what kinks are all about: people finding pleasure and excitement in something that isn't originally designed to provide such excitement. Some people have a kink for, say, colour-mixed couples, which I'm sure most other people would find offensive, but hey, it's their kink and they are entitled to it.
And finally, yes, I fully understand that it must be puzzling, disappoiting, even disheartening, to discover that someone who supports fictional same-sex couples does not support Real Life ones. But supporting homosexuality in RL is not a pre-requisite to liking yaoi - no, really, it's not.
To conclude:
1. Kinks are kinks are kinks.
2. Kinks are NOT an expression of someone's beliefs, convictions or morals. In fact, they often go against them, that's often part of what makes them exciting in the first place.
3. Kinks are most often not logical, and don't have to be (so, for example, liking yaoi but not yuri is perfectly fine).
4. FICTION IS NOT REAL LIFE.
5. Last but certainly not least: yaoi IS a kink in and of itself for many yaoi readers/writers. It's a widespread kink, but it's still a kink. I mean, I seriously doubt that most of those women who write/read/enjoy yaoi would rather watch their husband have hawt buttsecks with another man, than have het sex with him themselves...
So, can we PLEASE go back to "I won't assume to know what you think of IssueA in Real Life just because you happen to like IssueA fics"? It cuts both ways: just like we shouldn't assume that someone supports incest in RL because they happen to like incest fics, we also shouldn't assume that they support homosexuality in RL just because they like yaoi. It might be a confusing mindset, but it's still a perfectly valid one, and it doesn't make such people (edit) douchebags hypocrits.
ETA: I'm not sure what I've said wrong, but apparently it seems like I'm saying that homosexuality itself is a kink. I'm NOT. I'm saying yaoi is a kink to some people. Homosexuality is a RL sexual orientation. Yaoi is a fictional kink to some people. Not the same thing - which is pretty much the point of my rant.
Edited again to change "douchebag" to "hypocrit", as my beef in this rant is not with whether being squicked by homosexuality in RL qualifies one for douchebaggery, but with the perceived hypocrisy in being squicked by homosexuality in RL while liking yaoi in fiction, even though the very same squick/kink dichotomy is usually seen as acceptable for any other issue.