Secondly, I think your mother needs something else to focus on besides you. Maybe she should have the niece and nephew stay with her during the summer, take a Chinese course at a local college, and only speak Chinese in her house during that period as preparation for visiting you for a week or two.
Thanks for that! I have to admit, it's sometimes weird to get good wishes from people. It kind of takes me aback, like, oh yes, this IS a good thing! It definitely brings a sense of happiness that I SHOULD feel.
Yeah, all of my friends have delicately pointed out, in no way justifying her bad behavior, that my mom no doubt feels some panic and worry that I'm "leaving the nest" -- though I myself felt that I left the nest YEARS ago. She's very controlling and self-righteous; my brother doesn't really like for her to have too much of a role in raising the kids, so I doubt he'd go for that.
I actually think (in the hypothetical) that the kids and my sister-in-law staying with me for a month or so isn't too horrible. We'll see. As long as my sister-in-law is there, it doesn't seem like it would put me out too much. Gotta think it over some more.
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Secondly, I think your mother needs something else to focus on besides you. Maybe she should have the niece and nephew stay with her during the summer, take a Chinese course at a local college, and only speak Chinese in her house during that period as preparation for visiting you for a week or two.
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Yeah, all of my friends have delicately pointed out, in no way justifying her bad behavior, that my mom no doubt feels some panic and worry that I'm "leaving the nest" -- though I myself felt that I left the nest YEARS ago. She's very controlling and self-righteous; my brother doesn't really like for her to have too much of a role in raising the kids, so I doubt he'd go for that.
I actually think (in the hypothetical) that the kids and my sister-in-law staying with me for a month or so isn't too horrible. We'll see. As long as my sister-in-law is there, it doesn't seem like it would put me out too much. Gotta think it over some more.
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