Ragging on Facebook again

[fenriss]

I owe LiveJournal a sincere apology for forsaking it for Facebook. That horrible place makes me miserable all the time. I seriously can't look at my FB feed without either seeing something I can't un-see, or getting my hackles up because of someone's Tea Party attitude, or ending up inadvertently fighting with someone. But, see, that's where

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[joanarkham]

I've seen plenty of LJ Drama back in the day though. I think it's just easier to pick and choose what people you read and post to here.

I've hidden quite a few people on FB. It's depressing to find out what some casual acquaintances and old friends think about certain issues, but then - they probably always did, it's just easier to avoid knowing IRL.

[fenriss]

I think the longer form of LJ and, yes, the filtering system allows for a somewhat more civil environment. There certainly was some drama, but honestly, I can't remember ever being involved in any. Whereas on FB, I can't seem to look at it without getting upset *ever*.

[joanarkham]

Maybe the drama was more around the groups.

On the one hand, I feel like only surrounding yourself with people who agree with you is limiting and bad for society. On the other hand...I just don't have the energy to argue. I've got a small group of people I can really talk to/with and the rest are just social friends.

[fenriss]

It actually has very little to do with the "people I agree with" thing. In fact, the few Republicans I am friends with rarely ruffle my feathers. They tend to behave themselves pretty well. It's just rude, nasty behavior from some people, usually ones with whom I share most of my political views in common.

[vitruvian23]

I check here regularly too, although mostly lurking and reading, for what that's worth. Tumblr is kind of neat too, with lots of neat and cute pictures - in my feed, at least, along with the Pacific Rim and Super-Husbands (Steve/Tony) fanfic links.

Back over on Facebook, I've started either unfriending (in extreme cases), or, if I want to keep folks such as relatives on my friends list so I can communicate with them at will or check how they're doing, just removing from my newsfeed if their posts are full of grossness or Tea Party stuff or whatever. There's still a lot of blah stuff I just scroll through to check for actual interesting posts, even so, but it seems to keep the blood pressure down.

[fenriss]

Nah, Tumblr doesn't appeal to me, because there's no room for discourse. All you can do is "repost." And I'm not really in it for the images, which seems like just about all it's good for.

And the thing is, my FB distress is just so *constant.* It seems like every single time I poke my head in, something awful happens. T do not think that removing individuals from my feed will fix the problem.

[rednikki]

I have found ways to have discourse on Tumblr, amazingly! It works somewhat differently than LJ, but it does work.

[rednikki]

That's me, too - Tumblr and LJ, for the most part, with a healthy dose of Twitter.

[revfish]

FWIW, I still check LJ at least once a day, if not more.

It has slowed down quite a bit though.

[fenriss]

Good to know! Thanks.

dat feel

[bhanfhlaith]

I am in mostly the same boat. There's been plenty of LJ drama but FB drama seems so much faster and hard to contain. I kind of half abandoned here when almost nobody talked any more ( <10 out of hundreds.) But if you write, I would try to read it (and try to remember how to set reminders here)

Re: dat feel

[fenriss]

Thanks, Casey. I think I probably will try to write here more often. I appreciate you speaking up, and that you might come around and read my posts! You're very kind.

[feistydiva]

I still read and comment on LJ, mostly during the day and mostly during the week. I just haven't felt motivated to post, mostly because I feel like it should be something profound or insightful.

I pared down FB a while back mostly because I didn't feel like sharing everything with people who either weren't family or who probably wouldn't care if I fell off the face of the earth. I kept family and people I either hang out with IRL or would like hanging out with IRL. If acquaintances are curious about what I'm doing I figure they can follow the public FB page for the business.