Disabled ableism

[fayanora]

Even people who are disabled can be ableist, even unintentionally. My GF has depression and is an Aspie, like me, but trying to get her to understand how my IBS can affect me is extremely difficult. She keeps asking me to tell her the day before if I think I can make it to meet her or not, and I’ve lost track of how many times I’ve tried explaining

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[bart_calendar]

Often just random texts (even if she's sleeping and won't get them until the morning) are helpful in situations like this. She probably mostly just wants to know you are thinking about her and not doing a slow fade.

[fayanora]

She doesn't have a cell phone. Every cell phone she ever has gets lost or broken in less than a month. She's so hard to get a hold of that it's easier to get a hold of her by calling Jesse, in case they're together, which they usually are.

But you have a good point. I hadn't thought of that.

[bart_calendar]

Gotcha. Obviously I don't know the details of the situation. I didn't realize you had a GF until I saw this post.

I miss a lot of posts in the summer because I'm at the beach often.

Disabled Ableism

[irishgirl1984]

Having cerebral palsy makes my life difficult. Right now, I’m currently dealing with leg pain that’s annoying because my AFOs aren’t fitting like they did when I got them a little more than five years ago. Plus, my crutches are also old and worn-in need of replacing. Until this can happen, I’m trying to not push myself to do too much. When I want to be a help to my boyfriend, there are times I simply just push myself to do it.
I feel like I’m making him more depressed now. I know this month isn’t easy for him, but I feel like I’m letting him down if there’s nothing I can do to make him feel better. I’m in pain, too, due to my braces no longer fitting as they should. Just trying to walk each day hurts my body. Whenever the equipment can get fixed-however that works (I don’t remember how that got done because it’s already been so long since I’ve had to do this), is really exhausting and tough on my tiny frame. I’ll be relieved whenever this happens.