Shorts, Mothers, and My Thick Legs(edited for shorts)

[lizjohnson]

Earlier today, my mother commented that my legs were not my best feature while I tried on shoes, or at least that's what i got from her. Of course, later that day I bought a whole bunch of shorts above the knee to show off my imperfect legs.I had been toying with the purchase for a while after going through Rachele at thenearsightedowl.com's

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[cappyhead]

Depending on how old you are and how dependent financially you are on your mom, it may be time to set some boundaries, such as "I am not OK with comments about my body. Please stop. Thank you." I had to do this with my mom in my early 20s. I actually told her "I love you, and I want to continue to be your friend and your daughter, but if you can't stop making comments about my fat, I will have to rethink how possible continuing a relationship with you can be."

She got the message and shut the F up.

[lilacsigil]

I think shorts look awesome on fat women! Most looks with short skirts work great with shorts too, but look a little more casual.

Putting pressure on yourself to wear a particular garment and look awesome right away is a sure way never to wear something! Try wearing shorts out for a trip to the supermarket, say, or something equally unimportant. You'll get used to the feel of them on your body and how you feel wearing them, so you're not self-conscious the first time you wear them when you might be around people you're more nervous about or who feel they have the right to be critical about you (they don't!)

[ms_penguin]

My mother used to make disparaging comments about how people look all the time. Never about me *specifically* but just in general, and that's bad enough on its own. So what I would do is look at her and say, "That's not a very nice thing to say." Or, "You know, that's a mean comment to make about someone." It's important to call people out when they are being rude. Do you still live with your mother? If so I'd try something along the lines of "When you make these kinds of comments [insert reference to comment here], it really hurts my feelings. You are making me feel bad about myself, and I'm pretty awesome, so you're wrong." I'd probably still try the "that's not very nice" route, as well. If you don't live together, and the comments are very bad, you could just leave

[kakugori]

I'm sorry that you get those sort of comments from your Mom. I think that's not uncommon to a lot of people, in that family can sometimes be enemy #1 in terms of self-acceptance. I definitely suggest talking to her and setting some boundaries, and at least telling her how you feel when she makes these sort of comments.

As for shorts confidence, start slow? I'd probably just putter around the house in them. Lounge around the house after work, watching tv or reading, going out for short periods of time to water the plants or play with a pet. Sleep shorts? My first step is to get used to seeing myself in that level of exposure.

[snarfywarning]

When I need help feeling confident with clothes, I post OOTD pictures and let the love pour in. Even if I only wore my outfit in my bedroom.