Things I have Learned

[fantasticmissfi]

It is a married person's decision whether or not to keep their vow. But it is a single person's duty not to not seek to make them break it

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[auto_k]

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[fantasticmissfi]

I don't speak.... Russian?! But thanks for dropping by!

[penelly]

How did you get so wise? :)

Haven't seen you post on here for a while... I hope things are good for you.

[fantasticmissfi]

Perhaps sadly, mostly through experience! That seems to be the only route.

Things aren't bad and some things are good, and I'll try to be around a bit more. xx

[disturbedfolk]

As you once (tried) to encourage me, you really should post more often.

[fantasticmissfi]

That's very sweet. I'm ever hopeful...

[saturna]

I find the last one particularly poignant. Thanks for sharing.

[hornblowerr]

"More men prefer blondes, but more of the men who prefer brunettes are a better type of man."

thanks for the compliment. ;-)

"The way a man treats his mother is ultimately how he will treat his wife."

would you want to be married to someone who sleeps with his mother?

seriously though, great post and some very wise words indeed...

[fantasticmissfi]

It's about how a man treats his mother.

If he is disrespectful or disdainful towards his mother, that is how he ultimately will be towards his wife. If he lashes out in anger and says hurtful things, if he shuts her out in silence when he is upset, those are the things he will do to his wife, and so on. Some things you can live with, some things you shouldn't. Everyone gets frustrated with their parents, but the way we treat our parents during those times is reflected by the way we will treat our partners when the gloss of the relationship wears off.

I was given this advice when I was young, and I have come to see that it is true, though I have often wished it wasn't. Even when a man thinks his chosen partner is 'nothing like his mother', there just doesn't seem to be any way around this. The only way I imagine it could change is if he re-examined his attitudes towards his mother and improved them so that he reacted to her as an adult, rather than a child.

[hornblowerr]

I knew what you meant, and I agree totally...