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The Loretta part of the review.
Something about this review is bugging me. That there's several mentions of hoarding being a disease, a form of mental illness....and then flipping her shit over the woman being irrational.
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Loretta was infuriating and a drama queen, for sure, but troubled also. She needs counseling.
Most of the relationships shown on Hoarders show codependency. What bothers me is when grown children are living in the house and living with the filth. What, you can't wash the fucking dishes, at least? You could get your parent to go along with being on TV on Hoarders but you couldn't help them clean, at least a little (barring the really tough cases).
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Now they can't find anything! They needed that thing you moved! And they will stay angry at you for years, because if anything, their memories are just that good. Yeah, they are sick cookies all right.
It's actually the trauma of severe abuse you're seeing, not codependency. I know all about it, unfortunately.
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But yeah, we've seen this reaction to people cleaning up on the show, so....not that easy.
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Just from having watched it (so, no, not armchair psychologist just interested listener), it sounds like throwing things away - without them having made the decision themselves - is just going to cause problems. If/when they find something was thrown out, it feels like massive betrayal. And because they weren't ready to throw it away on their own, they just try to fill the space back up with other things. It's a control issue. And when someone's feeling of control is taken away, it only goes downhill.
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It's a mental disease that unfortunately often goes along with some amazing passive aggression or just plain abuse.
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The only way I have ever got garbage out of that house is to bag it up when she's not there and put it in the neighbor's bin - if I put it in my mom's bin, my sister will dig it out and bring it back in.
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Almost all the cases on the show are 'really tough cases'. As much as the people featured need therapy and professional help, their behaviour towards their children often tows the line between 'shitty' and 'outright neglectful and abusive'. I don't see why responsibility should fall to the adult children (who've probably lived with it their entire lives) to maintain their parents abusive and damaging behaviour.
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My mother was (is) the classic "ur doing it wrong" type of parent, standing behind me as I did anything at all and just itching to FIX IT because I wasn't doing it the way she deemed acceptable. It made me into a teen and young adult who didn't dare do anything because I was convinced I wouldn't do it wrong. As the other anons have said, hoarding is about control issues.
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And the whole thing with comparing the mugging with living in a warzone. Policing other people's trauma is so ( Read more... )
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And not to play all 'armchair psychologist', eyeroll, but....for that woman to have that reaction to being mugged, to being threatened....there's a good chance there's something buried deeper there.
But +1 on there's something weird about the reviewer not getting it.
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