When Kit and I first started living together, I ended up having a screaming fit of hysterics at him before he accepted: when he tries to wake me up for something and I say "I need to sleep for 5 more minutes. Otherwise, I'm going to get ill." that I'm not just saying stuff to try to make him go away because I'm not a morning person - I'm speaking true facts. (In fairness - Kit doesn't like getting up in the mornings any more than I do. He can tell me - in his sleep - "yes, I'm awake; you can go back to sleep now". He was trying to help and just didn't realise that I was serious. Or that stealing the blankets and gently shaking me when I wake up with stiff rheumatic-pain-y arms if I'm not covered up/spend too long in a draft, and have masses of knots in my back and shoulders at the best of times, will not make me wake up laughing and may actually, really hurt and make it harder for me to get moving once I am ready to be awake.) I think he watched my
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This captures the experience of ANY nonvisible chronic illness really well. Humans seem to think that if they can't see blood or deformity, you must really be OK & just need to "snap out of it". People often say they would rather have a broken leg, or an amputation, or be in a wheelchair, than have SLE, or rheumatoid arthritis, or depression... Because at least then other people would understand they have a health problem.
I think it's related to why sick cats & dogs often hide their illness until they are nearly dead but I can't quite say how it's related.
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*tries to go to it on her phone*
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When Kit and I first started living together, I ended up having a screaming fit of hysterics at him before he accepted: when he tries to wake me up for something and I say "I need to sleep for 5 more minutes. Otherwise, I'm going to get ill." that I'm not just saying stuff to try to make him go away because I'm not a morning person - I'm speaking true facts. (In fairness - Kit doesn't like getting up in the mornings any more than I do. He can tell me - in his sleep - "yes, I'm awake; you can go back to sleep now". He was trying to help and just didn't realise that I was serious. Or that stealing the blankets and gently shaking me when I wake up with stiff rheumatic-pain-y arms if I'm not covered up/spend too long in a draft, and have masses of knots in my back and shoulders at the best of times, will not make me wake up laughing and may actually, really hurt and make it harder for me to get moving once I am ready to be awake.) I think he watched my ( ... )
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I think it's related to why sick cats & dogs often hide their illness until they are nearly dead but I can't quite say how it's related.
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