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[f0rtunate_fool]

I have an obession with love, trying to figure it out why it makes us feel the things we do, why it stops and how. It seems like it something that is everywhere..almost all music is about it in one sense or another, I catch myself listening to songs and being able to relate the heart break and the happiness in every song, even the silly ones. The

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[no_looking_back]

my ideas:

love is like a mirror, you're attracted to someone whom you see qualities of yourself. And then after that, its all about really figuring eachother out and trying to accept that person's qualities for what they are- both good and bad. And I dont think there is necessarily one person, nor a line of people, that are "right," or "fated" to be for you. Just ones we pick and choose and meet along the way, out of chance.

And this always sticks in my head: "As I try to find the agent behind the act [love], the motivating force at the bottom of the whole thing, I seem to see only an endless ambivalence. Behind the mask of love I find my innate selfishness. What a predicament I am in if someone asks, "Do you really love me?" I can't say yes without saying no, for the only answer that will really satisfy is, "Yes, I love you so much I could eat you! My love for you is identical with my love for myself. I love you with the purest selfishness." No one wants to be loved out of a sense of duty." - Alan Watts

[not_quite_tall]

i think that the main reason why you're so confused and perturbed by all of this is the same reason why most 18, 19, 20 year olds are. i think that people in relationships at our age throw the word love around as though it's what you're SUPPOSE to do when you're in a relationship. and it's not. you don't have to LOVE every boyfriend/girlfriend that you're involved with and people shouldn't be forced to think that "oh we've been dating for this long we need to say this because it's what you're suppose to do". i think that you don't necessarily love only one person the rest of your life but i do believe that it takes time, real time, to figure out if you do love someone or not. i mean hey, it goes along with the saying "rome wasn't built in a day" and neither do healthy, long lasting relationships. i think that's where so many of us trip up: we get the notion "hey this is good! i want this to last!" so we put all of our effort into it and then it fails (as does a plant when continually watered) because i think most people want the

[no_looking_back]

hey good advice!

[f0rtunate_fool]

I think you didnt really get how I was saying all this its not directed at just whats been going on its a genral statement...I dont really need to be calmed down because I am..i dont think anyone sees that I am doing fine and Im not saying im going to always be searching for love....it doesnt have me blind to everyone else either especially within the last weeks I've realized how much you guys and family are there and that I have love in that way which is what i meant by having a more mature outlook..and no im not saying that maturing means being bitter but I was simply saying that yeah I'm just a little bit less naive when it comes to beliving in people..and just in genreal i think a little bit of bitterness occure when things get shitty you know that lol