stuff I wrote on tumblr

[etrangere]

and it was the closest thing to meta I wrote in years so I thought I might as well repost it here:

cleromancy asked: this isn't an assumption so much as something you've explicitly stated, but you're really into fucked up/self destructive relationship dynamics, romantically and otherwise; i'm actually pretty interested in your thoughts on why that

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[ariss_tenoh]

I’m very aware of the place power and differences of power and hierarchies has in relationships in general; and I always was. I dunno if most people are less aware to it or if it’s just something that people don’t talk about

I think most people are ashamed to admit or state the truth about power structures and power imbalances. Whenever someone points out a hierarchy and its structure, people start getting uncomfortable. Those in power like to believe they earned it through their hard work or a sort of superior self-righteousness. Those who don't have it are embarrassed to admit they are at the mercy of others.

[etrangere]

Yeah that's a good point. It's not something people like to think about.

[twhitesakura]

I find power dynamics in fiction interesting too, mostly because it makes a seemingly simple action much more complex. I do have self-destructive tendencies, so I do sometimes connect with those type of characters (i.e. Subaru being too kind and ultimately being able not to hurt others, but only himself) but I dislike truly destructive relationships. I mean, I never actually saw Seishirou/Subaru working out and I never wrote them "together."

As for being queergendered, I'm not myself, but whenever I come across blogs by transexuals I find myself very sympathetic. Really, they're just searching for a way to be comfortable and to be who they are and I think everyone goes through that. Some just have a harder/longer journey to self-acceptance.

[etrangere]

For a given value of "working out" i rather agree with you. In a way that's why I find it compelling.

[flo_nelja]

D'abord : bon anniversaire !

Ensuite : c'était très intéressant en soi, mais ce qui m'a le plus marquée, c'est les passages où je me disais "tiens, moi c'est pareil" et les autres où non, ce n'est pas pareil, et où j'essaie de trouver comment l'expliquer aussi clairement mais je n'y arrive pas très bien. Ca me donne très envie de faire le boulot. :-)

(En particulier : 100% d'accord sur la différence entre jealousy/envy, même si j'a tendance à traduire les deux comme "jalousie" en français, je fais clairement la même nuance que toi, juste en ne l'ayant jamais exprimé de cette façon)

[etrangere]

Merci :)

*rire* tu veux faire la checkist ? Contente que tu ais trouvé le post intéressant en tout cas

(au fait, j'avais dit que je t'enverrais des trucs la dernière fois qu'on s'est vues, mais j'ai oublié ce que c'était - tu te souviens ?)

[flo_nelja]

Faisons la checklist ! (et la rentrée prend du temps, je n'ai pas trouvé le temps avant, même là je suis au lycée pendant une heure de trou

[trobadora]

Happy birthday! :)

[etrangere]

thank you ^^

[_profiterole_]

Joyeux anniversaire !

[etrangere]

Merci ! :)