*hug* Yeah, I think so too. I mean...family...you know...
I've never quite felt like I had one. I was adopted, it took me until I was about 26 to have a real rapport with my dad, my mom and I still don't get along very well, and we hardly ever saw one half of the family and the other half we NEVER see... Well, dammit, it's high time that changed, and it's up to me to initiate it, I guess. So...yeah, I think it sounds like a damn good idea. Would probably be one on its own merits anyway, but hey...
I know how you feel. I'm not close to my extended family and hadn't visited in years before having to go back when my grandpa died. I felt bad but I wasn't sure if I felt unduely bad considering how not close we were or perhaps not bad enough becasue we weren't close.
Best of luck on arranging your family get together.
and *hugs* (with the same letters as "gush"? hmmm... wonder if there's meaning there?) from me, too.
It's definitely not uncommon for something like a death in the family to be necessary to make the people realize that they *are* a family, like it or not, and can't necessarily take it for granted. Hopefully, you're not beating yourself up that it took this to "wake you up." Consider, it probably also took that same event for the rest of the folks to realize as well.
Well, no, that's the thing...the rest of the family is really close and tight-knit. I think--and this is wild speculation based largely on stereotypes, but I think there may be some accuracy to it--that part of it is because my dad is kind of an atheist (not nearly as rabid about it as me, and went through a lot more exploring before coming to that place in life than I had to) and my immediately family is mostly free-thinkers, while the rest of the family is Catholic. (I'm tempted to tack the word 'Roman' on there, but I don't know what the distinction is between Catholic and Roman Catholic, if any.) And, on top of that, Italian. So, you know...family is a big honkin' deal. I just happened to be raised by the black sheep of the family
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I, uh...think I'm going to edit that entry; there's a few things I feel the need to add.
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I've never quite felt like I had one. I was adopted, it took me until I was about 26 to have a real rapport with my dad, my mom and I still don't get along very well, and we hardly ever saw one half of the family and the other half we NEVER see... Well, dammit, it's high time that changed, and it's up to me to initiate it, I guess.
So...yeah, I think it sounds like a damn good idea. Would probably be one on its own merits anyway, but hey...
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I know how you feel. I'm not close to my extended family and hadn't visited in years before having to go back when my grandpa died. I felt bad but I wasn't sure if I felt unduely bad considering how not close we were or perhaps not bad enough becasue we weren't close.
Best of luck on arranging your family get together.
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It's definitely not uncommon for something like a death in the family to be necessary to make the people realize that they *are* a family, like it or not, and can't necessarily take it for granted. Hopefully, you're not beating yourself up that it took this to "wake you up." Consider, it probably also took that same event for the rest of the folks to realize as well.
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