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emere2

A YHpothisis on Dealing with Bullies

Oct 04, 2005 22:53

Before getting into bullying its necessary to understand some of the unconscious defense mechanisms mainly Reaction Formation and Projection. These mechanisms are unconscious and at the time of use, the person is very unaware of their use. It's a protective mechanism, protecting their unconscious ego. In Freudian terms it is refusing to ( Read more... )

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lordalfredhenry October 4 2005, 16:45:01 UTC

Very good reading. I do remember my Freudian defense mechanisms and one that comes to mind might also be regression. The target of bullying sometimes will make it even worse if they regress into a child-like role and try to elicit pity ( ... )

emere2 October 5 2005, 10:03:12 UTC

The underlying idea is that the bully is out to cover up thier idiocy at any cost and to reinforce their superiority over you. Confrunting them with reactionary agression will only achieve a tactical withdrawal at best ( ... )

lordalfredhenry October 5 2005, 13:27:05 UTC

Ok so "not engaging" the other person at all. This seems like the advice to "ignore" or "escape". I agree one shouldn't try to answer or comment on what they are saying or let them control the subject. Is there a kind of response that is appropriate or is it tantamount (in online) to ignore? Is it stating (assertively) your "rights" and even though being "shot down", you did the keys and that is still ok? I guess one question I have is what is the end result in terms of benefits or disadvantage that resulted from that. I'm starting to think I know what you're saying and forgive me if I overanalyze this to death and back but you did give a go ahead to challenge/ask etc. I'm not really challenging as I am trying to elaborate the actual situations and what would count as going by the keys you suggest. How /what did you say that "stuck up for your right"? Thanks for any and all patience on this here. :D I know people need it with me sometimes. Not being dense as I am making all of us think and rethink our seemingly obvious assumptions.

emere2 October 6 2005, 09:18:23 UTC

Ok so "not engaging" the other person at all. This seems like the advice to "ignore" or "escape ( ... )