Dream a little of me
This will be entry one in a series of entries. How many? However many I feel like, so there.
In any event, last time, our dedicated viewers might recall, I waxed prosaic about the woman of my dreams. I also promised several followups in regards to several points in that entry.
I have had some subsequent discussions on that post, and feel that many of the issues touched upon deserve further exploration.
The first one I care to respond to is: What does Rishi Narain, lazy 23 year old male, consider attractive.
There is the very simple way of dealing with this, you could check out my Christmas Wish List, which oddly enough was unfulfilled.
But, I have come to learn that, while men might be visually wired, women aren't quite as visually wired. And, as the question of what I considered attractive came largely from members of the fairer sex, we will use words.
I did mention in my discussion of the dream woman that she would find me funny and laugh at my jokes because pretty girls are prettiest when they laugh and smile. I think a key requesite in attractiveness is the laugh and the smile. Those, more than anything will hook a guy. Now, what bodily feature does this lead me to notice?
No, it's not the lips, it's the eyes. No, I'm not covering for myself, the first feature I notice in a woman is her eyes. And yes, I do obviously move down from there (what, you think I wouldn't?). But the first thing you notice is the eyes. Expression comes from the eyes. And I think the level of personality you are going to get out of someone can be seen in how they express themselves with their eyes. Your key sign that you are finding someone warm and wholesome and good to be around is if they smile with their eyes. Too many people fake it. You can have all the long blonde hair and killer curves you want, if you don't have that twinkle in your eye, I'm moving on (and maybe I sneak a peek or two, I'm hardly a noble guy). All those metaphors about eyes being the window to your soul are really true. You can see some of the quality of a person in their eyes, and what they reflect. More importantly, will someone meet yours. Many people are very uncomfortable if you look them in the eye, like you're judging them or something. The people with the confidence to meet and hold your gaze are the ones who will stand by you when things get rough and tell you the truth when you need to hear it.
I've always thought that I was strictly a fan of long hair. Most of my friends agree, the whole hair tossing thing gets us. I don't know why. I guess we figure because it's linked to sex and we wanna see that happen because it means we're doing something right I guess, I dunno, guys are weird. Then, a few women who I thought were attractive got their hair cut short. And, I still thought they were hot. So, I dunno. They wore it well. I've even met women who had their heads shaved. And, they were hot. So, I guess I'm not strictly a long hair guy. Your hair, your skin, your body, your face, it's all clothing. None of it is who you are. So, if you wear it well, I like it. If not, I see through it. Either way, the whole package should convey something. I've given my overview of what it is that tickles my mind and soul, if you resonate with that, I'm interested.
I love voices. The sound of a woman's voice can do a man in. The low husky, or the light and musical, it speaks to different parts of a man's desire. Again, part of the packaging.
So, I haven't given too many actual physical descriptors. It's tough to do so, because what I find attractive in one woman isn't necessarily shared by another. And yet they both are hot.
Take a look at the seven women in the Christmas Wish List. I would argue that they have little in common (save that they are scantily clad). Some are blonde, some are brunette. Some are thin, some aren't. Some have full lips, some don't.
Pretty much, I like what every guy likes. I like pretty girls. Pretty being subjective. Also, I'm a pretty bad poker player. You can probably tell if I like you. Or that nubile little thing that walked by in the skirt that was FAR to short to preserve a young man's sanity.
In my humble opinion, EVERYONE is trying to be noticed, by someone. We do whatever it takes to get noticed. If you want me to notice you, I'll notice you. I think women are pretty perceptive about this sort of thing. Every girl, insecurities aside, knows what sort of man she wants, and what that sort of man wants. She knows if she's got it, and if she does, she'll flaunt it. If you flaunt it, the guy will look. We're easy, and we're dumb.
So, who's pretty? Two word question. 3,000,000 person answer. If you've got that, you've got one of a million part recipie for finding the perfect woman. She may be out there somewhere. Maybe I'll find her. I've got my dreams until then.
In any event, last time, our dedicated viewers might recall, I waxed prosaic about the woman of my dreams. I also promised several followups in regards to several points in that entry.
I have had some subsequent discussions on that post, and feel that many of the issues touched upon deserve further exploration.
The first one I care to respond to is: What does Rishi Narain, lazy 23 year old male, consider attractive.
There is the very simple way of dealing with this, you could check out my Christmas Wish List, which oddly enough was unfulfilled.
But, I have come to learn that, while men might be visually wired, women aren't quite as visually wired. And, as the question of what I considered attractive came largely from members of the fairer sex, we will use words.
I did mention in my discussion of the dream woman that she would find me funny and laugh at my jokes because pretty girls are prettiest when they laugh and smile. I think a key requesite in attractiveness is the laugh and the smile. Those, more than anything will hook a guy. Now, what bodily feature does this lead me to notice?
No, it's not the lips, it's the eyes. No, I'm not covering for myself, the first feature I notice in a woman is her eyes. And yes, I do obviously move down from there (what, you think I wouldn't?). But the first thing you notice is the eyes. Expression comes from the eyes. And I think the level of personality you are going to get out of someone can be seen in how they express themselves with their eyes. Your key sign that you are finding someone warm and wholesome and good to be around is if they smile with their eyes. Too many people fake it. You can have all the long blonde hair and killer curves you want, if you don't have that twinkle in your eye, I'm moving on (and maybe I sneak a peek or two, I'm hardly a noble guy). All those metaphors about eyes being the window to your soul are really true. You can see some of the quality of a person in their eyes, and what they reflect. More importantly, will someone meet yours. Many people are very uncomfortable if you look them in the eye, like you're judging them or something. The people with the confidence to meet and hold your gaze are the ones who will stand by you when things get rough and tell you the truth when you need to hear it.
I've always thought that I was strictly a fan of long hair. Most of my friends agree, the whole hair tossing thing gets us. I don't know why. I guess we figure because it's linked to sex and we wanna see that happen because it means we're doing something right I guess, I dunno, guys are weird. Then, a few women who I thought were attractive got their hair cut short. And, I still thought they were hot. So, I dunno. They wore it well. I've even met women who had their heads shaved. And, they were hot. So, I guess I'm not strictly a long hair guy. Your hair, your skin, your body, your face, it's all clothing. None of it is who you are. So, if you wear it well, I like it. If not, I see through it. Either way, the whole package should convey something. I've given my overview of what it is that tickles my mind and soul, if you resonate with that, I'm interested.
I love voices. The sound of a woman's voice can do a man in. The low husky, or the light and musical, it speaks to different parts of a man's desire. Again, part of the packaging.
So, I haven't given too many actual physical descriptors. It's tough to do so, because what I find attractive in one woman isn't necessarily shared by another. And yet they both are hot.
Take a look at the seven women in the Christmas Wish List. I would argue that they have little in common (save that they are scantily clad). Some are blonde, some are brunette. Some are thin, some aren't. Some have full lips, some don't.
Pretty much, I like what every guy likes. I like pretty girls. Pretty being subjective. Also, I'm a pretty bad poker player. You can probably tell if I like you. Or that nubile little thing that walked by in the skirt that was FAR to short to preserve a young man's sanity.
In my humble opinion, EVERYONE is trying to be noticed, by someone. We do whatever it takes to get noticed. If you want me to notice you, I'll notice you. I think women are pretty perceptive about this sort of thing. Every girl, insecurities aside, knows what sort of man she wants, and what that sort of man wants. She knows if she's got it, and if she does, she'll flaunt it. If you flaunt it, the guy will look. We're easy, and we're dumb.
So, who's pretty? Two word question. 3,000,000 person answer. If you've got that, you've got one of a million part recipie for finding the perfect woman. She may be out there somewhere. Maybe I'll find her. I've got my dreams until then.