If things were different, they wouldn't be the same + FI 6 & 7

[elizabeth_hoot]

I keep running across a not-quite-trope -- an argument -- that I find immensely problematic. I'm going to talk about it now, through my own feminism, which may not be yours. Consider yourself warned for that, along with discussions of violence and sexual assault.

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Warning for triggering content

[ladyhadhafang]

Very good chapter. :) I haven't been commenting for the past few days, but I quite like this story. I'm not much of a Jane Austen reader (she's very good, but I'm just not a...die-hard fan of her per se

Re: Warning for triggering content

[elizabeth_hoot]

Thank you! I am definitely a die-hard fan, as you can probably tell, and this was my first long genderswap. So this is probably my favourite of my many stories.

I agree that abuse of men is seen as ridiculous -- I said so. Because it's something that happens to women, and men who share (stereotypically) female experiences are shamed for it. It's like with crying. Men don't cry because women do; when it's not defined as girly you don't see that stigma.

All the crap around masculinity is, well, crappy, but it seems that many discussions stop there and don't consider why there's such a stigma attached to stereotypically non-masculine (i.e., girly) things.

I'm pretty sure if that happened to a girl

This is ... exactly what I was talking about. If it happened to a girl it would not be the same, because it would be backed by thousands of years of violence against women worldwide. So for me, the "if it were a girl" argument is essentially saying, "if it were different, it'd be different." Which is not to say that what happened to him is

Re: Warning for triggering content

[ladyhadhafang]

You're welcome. :) And yes, I can imagine. :)

Ah. *Facepalms at own stupid* I'm very sorry for the misinterpretation. But yeah, definitely makes sense, what you're saying. :)

And yeah, I remember hearing about that story on Twitter and just thinking, "Oh God, no!" D: