The Wuss Society: What are its Origins?

[eliteloser]

The other day I was thinking about the incredible number of girls and boys I've met who have never been yelled at in their lives

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[wist]

I don't yell and I don't think I'm a wuss. I never get angry. Anger can be blinding. It makes people irrational and unreasonable and I'd rather be cool-headed. It pisses the other person off more if I don't yell, and if I'm really upset I can always go home and cry about it later.

I think it's a good idea to be honest with your [future] daughters. My dad yelled at me all my life and I never yelled back and now I don't yell. He never yelled at my sister, he coddled her, and now she yells all the time. Is there a correlation? I have no idea.

Thanks for the recent compliments. Sorry I've been kind of out of touch lately.

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[herwonderfulday]

Hi. About a month ago (my email says September 23rd, so.. half a month ago) you left a comment on my livejournal (addictivemma). I just got that comment because I stopped updating that journal (and stopped using that email address).

I have since erased that journal and started a new one (or rather, just renamed my old one) and I'm adding you to my friends list since you had added me before but I never returned the favor.

So, yeah. See ya around. :)

[daregale]

Passionate argument can be a very good thing. Personal attacks never are.

[eliteloser]

I like that distinction.

[louveciennes]

Yelling is only effective if the language used while yelling is effective. I find that most people yell because they lack what they need to express their views and are merely trying to vent that frustration without being physically violent. If a person has a right to be frustrated and upset and can yell out those frustrations reasonably then yelling is fine. In some ways heated arguments with yelling are necessary so people can exhaust themselves physically by yelling and then realize there was no need to yell and eventually the conversation comes to a conclusion where the people involved aren't yelling but actually communicating

[eliteloser]

Thank you for your insight; I'm sorry about your childhood, but I'm happy you were able to overcome so much grief.

I really am amazed by the responses I've gotten to this post, generally. They've been very personal, and very deep, and no one is wrong, but each only brings more to think about. It is a dark issue to a large degree, but it is far worse, I think, to forget how awful people can be and then be reminded all of a sudden that there are people who yell for yelling's sake, and forget that there are many who are so much better than that, occasionally mimicking such behavior outwardly, but certainly not intending the same...