A Meta on Professional Dominatrices

[eldritchhorrors]

Title: A Meta on Professional Dominatrices by a former Pro Dominatrix
Warnings: Frank discussion of BDSM and all that can entail
Spoilers: for ASIB perhaps...
Rating: NC-17
Word Count: 4500
A/N: This is meant to help writers with their post ASIB fic. It is by no means a complete guide, and it is based upon personal observation and experiences. Other

Comments

[fantomeq]

I found this very interesting. I particularly liked hearing about your experiences with police, and I'm very curious about what sorts of mental health issues you came across. (That is brewing ideas for some brainwashing fic.)

[eldritchhorrors]

Lol @ the keystone cops.

Mental health issues...wow, too many to go into here, really. You name it, it crossed my path. A few I felt sorry for, some I liked, and a very few ended up scaring me. I got a lot of men who I'm sure suffered from depression, some I thought were bipolar, and one guy who I'm positive was a psychopath.

[fantomeq]

I have only met one psychopath for sure, and I am disappointed to say that he did successfully manipulate me. He had an odd smell about him that relaxed me, I'm guessing pheromones. I do love to read about them academically though.

[eldritchhorrors]

I was raised by a dangerous sociopath, so my experience with them is too damn much. Don't feel too bad about it, they can be extremely convincing.

[ununpentium]

Very interesting, thank you very much for taking the time to write it.

[eldritchhorrors]

Glad you liked it!

[tueswmoriarty]

Thanks for providing this resource. I don't know that I plan to write any BDSM fic, but I learned a ton from it anyway.

[eldritchhorrors]

I figured that there probably weren't many in the fandom, so why not add to the pool of information. Thanks for reading.

[hells_half_acre]

Very interesting. Thanks so much for sharing. I don't write or read BDSM fics, because they just don't do anything for me (or at least, very rarely do - perhaps they just aren't written well), but I'm always interested in different careers.

It's also nice to have the no-sex thing confirmed. I always believed that (just seemed logical to me, I guess), but then so many people seemed to think otherwise that I started to doubt myself.

Also, that story about smacking the vice-cop is hilarious. I bet he really did enjoy it - and better yet, could get his department to pay for it. :)

[eldritchhorrors]

I very rarely read BDSM fic, because it is usually about the tools, and not about emotion or motivation. My Sherlock fics are the first BDSM fics I've written, and I wrote them because I wanted to explore the psychological and emotional reasons for that type of relationship, and make it a genuine romance.They are heavy on the character study and fairly light on the tools.

I will never forget the look on that vice cop's face. I'm actually positive that he enjoyed it. I can just imagine him grrmumbling excuses to his fellow officers later.

Oddly enough, when I asked my police clients about vice they were all pretty derisive.

[fuzzyboo03]

This was fascinating, thank you.

(And hello from a fellow aspie.)

[eldritchhorrors]

Yay, Aspies!

I'm sure you can imagine why being a remote and elegant type Dom was not going to be in my repertoire.

[fuzzyboo03]

Mmm, yes.

I wonder if there's a certain appeal to a situation where rules are stated and agreed upon explicitly, given the complex spaghetti of unwritten rules we have to navigate in society.

[eldritchhorrors]

Rules, schmools.

A transaction, even the commoditization of sex and pain, where nothing is expected of you except what was explicitly agreed upon in the contract...its a ray of sunshine to a lot of people.