Frustration

[eithni]

I was thinking awhile ago about what I want out of life and relationships (romantic and otherwise) and recent events has reinforced some of those concepts.

Want: Dependability, Companionship, Intellectually satisfying

Do Not Want: Fuckwittage, of any flavor

There are other things, of course, but those are the big ones currently.
It doesn't seem

Comments

[jinglymushroom]

What is that? -- The wittage, I mean... I'm guessing it's someone trying to be witty, but I'm not sure I understand what the rest of it means... Jokes at other people's expense? Just plain stupid? Annoying...?

And I sorry it's hard to find that. :(

[jinglymushroom]

Er, "that" being the combination of the above-mentioned traits that you would like...

[eithni]

Heh. It's a combination of willful cluelessness and/or irresponsibility. It's hard to define, but it was coined and beautifully defined by Bridget Jones, where it was specifically applied to romantic situations ("emotional fuckwittage"). :P

[mtgordon]

Sonia's a huge fan of Bridget Jones, which I suspect is partly a consequence of her also being a huge fan of Jane Austen.

[fencert]

Well, I can't help with the first three, but I have the fourth one covered... oh wait, was there no comma in there? Damn.

Want: Dependability, Companionship, Intellectually satisfying

[eithni]

*laughs* I initially read that you had the fourth thing (ie fuckwittage) covered. ;)

[fencert]

Well, if that's worth any extra points I suppose I could play along...

[belmikey]

Sad, but true :-(

[zarhooie]

*hands you some bubble wrap*

[eithni]

*pop*pop*pop*

*grin*

[damej]

I think it's important to distinguish between the two categories of f*wits:
1. Those who conceal their intentions in order to get laid; and
2. Those who don't know what they really want or how to go about getting it.

The latter type can the educated. The former type is a waste of time and energy.

Several years ago, I read Debora Tannen's book "You Just Don't Understand." I have found it very helpful in translating what a man says into what he really means (or what a woman would say to express the same meaning).

[eithni]

Happily, most of the Do Not Want has been in social, not romantic, relationships lately. Nevertheless, that sounds like a good book. Still have it? May I borrow it?

[damej]

I got it from the library, so I don't still have it.

[eithni]

Fair enough. Presumably I can get it from there too.