Gender quandry

[eidolonamorata]

I'm not looking forward to attempting to have this conversation with Backus. I need to reconcile being in a relationship with being bisexual. As in, what happens some time in the future if I feel a desire for a bisexual relationship as well? Do I just ignore it like I would if it was another guy, or do I go for it as a legitimate thing? One way

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[freecake]

oh, the internal argument i have with myself every other week! lovely

[aelphaba]

Being a self touted bisexual myself who is currently looking at wedding dresses in the other Mozilla window as I type this I have this to say.

Its not a cop out to pick. To do both at the same time is like eating vanilla ice cream at the same time as choclate - sure there diffrent but your still eating ice cream. For me I had to understand that if I saw there was a diffrence it was born out of a desire to be with some - any gender - other than my current partner. When I was in love it didnt matter who approched me I felt the need to be only with that person.

Also, I don't know any bisexuals over 30. At age 29 I will say this, I am very attracted to women and have dated them in the past. Its not a denial of who I am, just the the one for me was a Mr and not a Ms - but really it could have gone either way.

Sometime its ok to not full relize things about yourself.

[freecake]

Im not sure what you mean by saying you don't know any bisexuals over 30, i sure do.
but anyways i agree with this comment. Eventually you have to come to term with the fact that parts are only part and so a monogomous relationship should not matter as much as we make it out to if we truly believe in the idea of bisexualty.
the problem is the different sociology of dating a female. that's why i tend to like boys who are more feminine.

[eidolonamorata]

Actually by the cop out I meant "I can just sleep with whoever I want whenever because I'm bisexual". I totally agree with you, though. If you're in love, it doesn't matter who approaches you. I like it.

[godasriel]

Don't get too stuck on using traditional or popular relationship definitions to define or judge your relationship. half of the time they don't really apply, and trying to make them causes more trouble than talking and coming up with terms and definitions that suit and are acceptable to all the people in your individual relationships.

[eidolonamorata]

Thanks for the helpful thoughts, guys. It ain't easy being Blue, but it's easier with good friends =)

[seraphim904]

It's not easy being green, either...

Personally... I thought dating a bisexual girl was hot... but that's just me, I suppose.

[eidolonamorata]

Backus thinks it's pretty hot, too. I guess I just worry myself by looking too far into the future.
By the way, I look at the evil giraffe every day for a laugh =)

[jluke]

It does absolve you of some guilt when you catch her checking out the girl first.