Feeling too "large" in lolita clothes

[vackert_vitt]

I have a rather odd preoccupation that prevents me from enjoying lolita to the fullest, and am curious if anyone else experiences this and/or has advice for how to overcome it.

Comments

[meemee_chibo]

I can understand where you're coming from. Whenever I walk around in lolita knowing I'll be taking up space somewhere, I am concerned that I might get in contact with someone (more like I'm worried my clothes will be tainted by touching people XD).
I don't think anyone will hate you as long as you are being considerate and trying to occupy as little space as possible; I think it may only be a real problem if someone verbalizes it to you or if you are knowingly trying to occupy the entire space.

[sprinklepuff]

As someone who ALWAYS has to move aside for other people, because for some reason no one will ever move for me, I really don't mind taking up a little extra space when I wear a petticoat. ROFL. Unless you're wearing a giant 12 ft x 12 ft cardboard box in addition to your petticoat, you shouldn't worry. You're a human being - you deserve your space bubble. If that bubble needs to be expanded a few inches because of your clothing, it's not a big deal. Anyone who DOES make a big deal out of it is a jerk. Ignore him/her.

[lunathy90]

"Unless you're wearing a giant 12 ft x 12 ft cardboard box in addition to your petticoat, you shouldn't worry."
You are awesome!
I laughed so hard when i saw this!

[allisunyin]

I normally either wear an A-line petti or not wear one at all (My dresses like to stand up on their own). I'm scared to death of taking up to much space. I don't wear the proper pettis because I'm afraid of bumping into people or being in the way or knocking things over. I live in a fairly crowded area so I guess I have my reasons. But I am honestly scared to death to make people angry. I have a very defining social phobia, which is very common, in which people fell the need to take up as little space as possible, and stay completely out of the way.

[hallarch]

I think I know what you mean! (though my interpretation has also been multiplied by years of being tall) It seems like a matter of situation. If you are at a picnic meet or something it doesn't really matter what room you take up. At a restaurant or museum you might feel more like a space sponge. Have you considered letting go of petticoats? I know it seems "unlolita" but it might help you feel better about it if there are less layers on your outfit. Of course, this stuff doesn't make sense if you intend to wear lolita 24/7. It would also serve you well to think about the situation in terms of movement. As Novala wrote about once... we always have to dress 10x more for the occasion

[with_a_zacky]

I used to worry about this too, so I tried to stop wearing lolita when I knew it'd be an issue (such as getting the bus at busy times). However I soon stopped worrying as much when I realised that people always half-sit on my seat because of their fatness and I have to squish up again the window Dx in fact, my pouffy dresses don't stop them. They just go right ahead and sit on top!

As long as you aren't rude about it, go ahead. Claim your petti space!

Or maybe just wear smaller petticoats for the day-to-day =]