Lolita, Privacy, and Dealing with Rude People...

[dapperdarling]

Yesterday I wore lolita outside for the first time by myself at the mall,
I was feeling pretty confident until I noticed two girls (around age 9-10) sneaking around quite obviously trying to take a picture of me. I politely told them that 'if they wanted to take a picture, they could just ask', and they insisted they were just playing a game on

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[notxdeadxyet]

I think what happened to you is horrible and disgusting. It amazes me how rude and judgemental people can be.
However, one has to bear in mind that Lolita is still pretty uncommon in the States. And people are going to stare and make comments. (I've been fortunate enough to not encounter harassment, but I'm usually with my boyfriend who is big and rather scary looking.) But one does need to grow a thick skin about people staring. I try to hold my head high and think "Stare all you want, I feel beautiful and I don't care what you think."
As for the picture taking though, that's something else again. I'm really just appalled.
Did you say anything to the guys in the Sanrio shop? As long as you're in a public place, don't ever be afraid to stand up for yourself. If you had yelled "Stop taking my picture you freaking sleazy perverts" it would have turned the attention onto them.
I'm really sorry you had to deal with this. It sounds like it was really just awful.

[winter_aria]

LOL This. I went out yesterday all frilled up, to the mall, but I was with my husband, who is big and tattooed and scares off most of the people who start to whisper. I was just saying to him every lolita should have one.

I think wearing lolita means you are just going to have to get used to the people. Is it rude, yes, but there isn't much to be done about it. I think asking them politely to stop is the best you can hope for. If you have people who continue that kind of behavior and it's starting to really upset you, you can always go tell security or the store manager. No one has the right to harass you like that.

Every once in a while I catch someone staring and then sooner or latter they come over to say how pretty my dress is. I can understand where it might be hard to approach a stranger and ask about their clothing while trying to be as polite as possible. Sometimes it's good looks, sometimes it's bad. That's what happens when you choose to stand out.

[dapperdarling]

Unfortunately, no, I didn't say anything to the guys in the Sanrio store. I was trying to pick out some gifts for my friends, when one of the guys tried to take an up-skirt pic, so after that I just ran to the register and then ran out. >.<
The thing is though, our Sanrio store is really small, and there was at least one shop girl out there at all times who could have clearly seen these guys weren't in there to buy anything and just wanted to harass me. I guess they figured it wasn't their problem,so they didn't say anything. :/

[winter_aria]

That is just so wrong!! I'll tell you this, if I saw that kind of behavior going on in my store I would absolutely have asked them to leave. If you experience this sort of thing again you really need to mention it to security. Sadly even this isn't illegal here in the US. Your state may feel different so you can check the laws there. I know IN has one.

[pastel_monster]

This is disgusting behaviour. It happened to me once when I was in cosplay and a bunch of chavs on a bus were really obviously taking pictures and laughing. I just got their attention and informed them that 'It's highly disrespectful to take pictures of somebody without their consent'. They stopped after that. You might just have to take it all in your stride. Sadly, some people can't understand that people dress differently or do different things and it's their fault that they're closed minded. Just be the bigger person, I'm sure you looked wonderful!

[darkychan0]

It's horrible how society judges people who are different from them. Although it is normal for me because I live in a small town, I recognize that it is always annoying that people treat us well. Just envy the way in which we live what we love no matter the opinions of others, because we are brave and do things that maybe they would not.

Many of them love us almost as much as Lolita, but prejudices and fears shut up and laugh like everyone else.
Do not worry, just be yourself. They do not exist in the world of lollipops and unicorns :)

[seouldew]

I'm really sorry you experienced this :c it sounds awful. But it also sounds like you handled it well. I probably would have cussed those guys out tbh haha.

Keep your chin up! Dress however you want to dress and ignore those idiots<3

[luckyratfoot]

It just part of the world we live in now. That's why we have People of Walmart and countless other websites with photos of strange people.