That is a very neat swing! Looks handmade....those are the best!
What a pleasant final resting place for those who are buried there. Looks like it was a day filled with emotions.
Good beginning on the chicken coop. I was worried about bears. Would they disturb the chickens? Where are you going to place it? In the immediate back yard?
The swing is not handmade - but it has lasted a long time for being exposed to weather year round - the canopy has fallen off though.
This is very fitting to have Maggie's grave and now Bruce's ashes there - now when the family gets together he will (sort-of) still be with them.
Not sure if it will hold up to bears but I don't know if anything would if they really wanted to get into it. I am going to hang some cow bells on it and it it gets disturbed in the night hopefully Andy will hear and bark to alert us. Dave has a gun that will shoot rubber bullets - that would work to scare a bear away without killing it. That's the plan anyway.
John's wheelchair is such an extreme and powerful reminder of him. So much of his life was either spent in bed, riding in the van or in the wheelchair. I can't look at it without seeing John there sitting in it with the plaid blanket over his lap or up around his neck when it was really cold. The rubber on the wheels looks like it is rotted off. I remember it as a gray color.
That was so comforting when I read what Bill Schubert wrote about the ashes. I always thought they were mixed, too, or could even be someone else's, (how would we know?) and that it was just symbolic. I am going to look up Caitlin Doughty, "Smoke gets in your eyes" about her life in the crematorium. I bet it is full of compassion!
There's no good reason to give up coffee, at least a cup in the morning.
I started wondering the same thing reading this... I figured people's ashes must get a little mixed up but, we're all mixed anyway especially at that point.
Don't tempt me - I love coffee. It can become an addiction for me if I let it. I have stopped many times, then started again - with just the cup in the morning - which grows to many cups a day.
We have gone to 3 "ceremonies" so far for Bruce. One in a regular funeral home with a viewing, then a get together with his neighbors in the local grange hall and now this very informal one outdoors with just family. It is still hard to believe he is gone. Dave especially was very close to Bruce. He notices the hole that Bruce has left behind a lot - not getting the many phone calls he used to get every week from Bruce.
It is - that spot is in an out of the way place but still easy to visit. A perfect place to spend some time and think of Bruce.
That was one of the first things I did when I got my first car - drive little random roads and try to learn my way around the area. When you are a kid and riding in a car you don't learn these things till you are the one driving. I'm still learning my way around I guess!
That is good to know - don't know why it is comforting but I would like to think that the ashes really are what was left behind of my own loved ones. I have a pottery urn that I put a bit of ashes in after my mom, dad and brother died. I hope to be in there too someday.
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What a pleasant final resting place for those who are buried there. Looks like it was a day filled with emotions.
Good beginning on the chicken coop. I was worried about bears. Would they disturb the chickens? Where are you going to place it? In the immediate back yard?
Kind of sad seeing John's wheelchair there......
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This is very fitting to have Maggie's grave and now Bruce's ashes there - now when the family gets together he will (sort-of) still be with them.
Not sure if it will hold up to bears but I don't know if anything would if they really wanted to get into it. I am going to hang some cow bells on it and it it gets disturbed in the night hopefully Andy will hear and bark to alert us. Dave has a gun that will shoot rubber bullets - that would work to scare a bear away without killing it. That's the plan anyway.
Yes, about John...
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That was so comforting when I read what Bill Schubert wrote about the ashes. I always thought they were mixed, too, or could even be someone else's, (how would we know?) and that it was just symbolic. I am going to look up Caitlin Doughty, "Smoke gets in your eyes" about her life in the crematorium. I bet it is full of compassion!
Good idea about the cow bells.
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I just ordered the book Smoke Gets in Your Eyes. Looks really interesting.
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I started wondering the same thing reading this... I figured people's ashes must get a little mixed up but, we're all mixed anyway especially at that point.
"We never throw anything away." Lol.
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Right - good for us! Not wasted time at all.
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I love taking rides on unfamiliar country roads. There's no such thing as getting lost, it's just an adventure.
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That was one of the first things I did when I got my first car - drive little random roads and try to learn my way around the area. When you are a kid and riding in a car you don't learn these things till you are the one driving. I'm still learning my way around I guess!
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