"Touch Me, Touch Me - I Wanna Feel Your Body ..." - Adventures In Myspace (and Elsewhere)

[ed_rex]

The girl was no more than 8 or 9 years old. She wore bright, tight, red shorts and a an equally-tight, white t-shirt that both revealed and obscured the nipples budding from her narrow chest

Comments

[sooguy]

I have wholly different memories of Samantha Fox, but that's fodder for another post.

Glad to see you sticking your head back in here. Your posts are always insightful and leave me scratching my head, questioning my own beliefs.

Good job. I think.

Do Tell ...

[ed_rex]

This may be a little pruient, but I'm curious about your memories - here, or in a post of your own.

[rantipole6]

A part or apart? A little of both, I'd say. I think BDSM communities are a part of mainstream sexuality that is often unacknowledged by a lot of people. There are plenty of people out there who enjoy dominance and submission, but don't know what that interest is called and often express it in roundabout ways. I once knew someone who was kinky as all hell and wanted to dominate women, but was also extremely religious and terrified to even talk about sex. The end result was that instead of buying some hot wax and nipple clamps, he played bizarre head games and attempted to "play rough" and then deny his actions later. I'm sure there are weirdos and drama queens "in the scene" as well, but I'm willing to bet that most of the people "in the scene" are fairly normal, law-abiding folk. I think those who participate and are comfortable doing so give BDSM the illusion mainstream through their casual, relaxed behavior (i.e. not being as intense or dramatic as you would think outside of their actual roleplaying).

[rantipole6]

That should read "the illusion of being mainstream." Crap, I hate typos.

The Joy of Sub (Cultures)

[ed_rex]

...I think BDSM communities are a part of mainstream sexuality that is often unacknowledged by a lot of people.

I can't stop myself from picking a nit. If BDSM is "often unacknowledged, then isn't it by definition, not part of the mainstream? (Mind you, it is certainly getting closer to it with its fashions, etc, being co-opted by pop music and advertising.)

There are plenty of people out there who enjoy dominance and submission, but don't know what that interest is called and often express it in roundabout ways.

I imagine this is very true indeed.

I once knew someone who was kinky as all hell and wanted to dominate women, but was also extremely religious and terrified to even talk about sex. The end result was that instead of buying some hot wax and nipple clamps, he played bizarre head games and attempted to "play rough" and then deny his actions later.

I wonder if that kind of denial is at the root of some percentage of rape, as well.

I'm sure there are weirdos and drama queens "in the scene" as well, but I'm willing to bet

[deweyintoronto]

I don't know that I understand this "unfriend"ing thing. Is it kind of like 3rd grade? You said something that I disagree with, therefore you are not my friend anymore? And my daddy can beat up your daddy.

Unfriending - Sometimes Personal

[ed_rex]

In this case, it's less like grade 3, than like a drawn-out, adult withdrawal.

Nicky and I started out as e-friends through hotornot.com, then met a couple of times and began what I think we both believed might become a real friendship.

However (and this is only my version, though I suppose that's implicit), she treated me pretty rudely a few times and I broke off communication. She wrote me last spring to invite Laura and I up north, where she was then living and I wrote back, explaining why I had fallen silent and why I didn't want to open myself up to more rudeness.

She answered that email with a curt, hurt, letter saying, in effect, "Fuck you, then."

Strangely, though, she didn't drop me from her friends' list and has even posted the occasional comment since then (as I have done on her journal).

Long story short: much more complicated than grade 3.