This is what happens when I post hastily.

[dzuunmod]

I post again two minutes later.

Romantic comedies can spoil your love life.

"They found fans of films such as Runaway Bride and Notting Hill often fail to communicate with their partner.

Many held the view if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them.I might have put a different headline on

Comments

[lupinlover]

No way, Columbus girl is wrong. that comparison is spot on.

[wendykh]

why does she think it's out of bounds?

[dzuunmod]

I could tell you about the whole conversation, but it could basically be summarized as, 'The things men want are dirty and bad but the things women want are virtuous and wholesome.'

[wendykh]

I see she's never been fucked properly then.
Poor thing probably isn't even aware she hasn't been. I remember going around talking like some kind of sexpert about all the great sex I was having and hadn't even had an orgasm yet from anyone other than my own hand. You want to know the truly sad part?

I HAD NO IDEA I wasn't having them.

No really.

[dzuunmod]

I'm starting to wonder if you think there's a woman left who appreciates the slow, romantic sexytimes.

[bee_york]

Oh, this is a *very* interesting article and subject matter! I have a lot to say on the subject, but too much, because I find this too interesting...maybe this will be a post I'll never write! haha. But seriously. So much to say

[dzuunmod]

It's interesting that people my age (and older) would think this way, and the psychology-fanatic in me wants to know why they do. People aren't stupid. (I know everyone will disagree with me on that, but...) They know what they're watching isn't real, it's Hollywood. But they believe in it anyway. Why?

Do you find it any less interesting/strange that a man might watch lots and lots of porn and then start to assume things such as:
-all women want their clitorises ATTACKED
-most women shave everything
-sex should end with a facial

and on and on.

Because to me, it makes perfect sense! If you're not having *actual* sex and your experience is limited to porn and masturbating, why wouldn't you at some point start to think that the things you're watching are somewhat normal? Same thing goes with (mostly) women who watch romance movies but who aren't in actual relationships!

[bee_york]

Ah yes! This is very true indeed. But I mean, by your 20s and 30s, most people have started dating (or have been doing so for awhile), right? So why would they still expect those things? When you're 14 and don't know better it's very different, because you're too young to be "out in the world yet", so you might see the social world of the movies and television to be the world you're about to embark once you're old enough--at least, that's how I saw it as a teenager! ;) But if you're already "there", then why would you still think that?

hahaha it's difficult to explain. I really should make a post about it though, 'cause I'd love to hear everyone's thoughts on it.

[thepersona]

The comparison is perfect.

[shescreamed]

I would say more romantic comedies are to women what action movies are to men. Porn serves a purpose romantic comedies can't fulfill. I think society as a whole though fills women's heads with unrealistic romantic notions, I'm sure I have loads of them.

[amiga500]

I think that's closer. Porn tends to be kept more private, too.

[shescreamed]

Yeah I think romantic comedies are just what marketing departments decide women like just like they think men want explosions and people dying.

[dzuunmod]

Sure, but sex is also more private than romance. I won't walk into the office bragging about the blowjob I got last night, but women don't seem to have any problems walking in and talking about the flowers their man got them or the meal he cooked.