When All is Said and Done and Dead ...?

Jul 18, 2014 22:46

Does anyone ever feel weirded out when others say to you, "If only there was a male/female version of you!" Now granted this usually comes in the form of a borderline flirtatious/complimentary comment. But either way- why associate a gender with my characteristics at all? To generate comfort because of biological differences? To separate fact from ( Read more... )

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shimdrashaul July 19 2014, 17:52:39 UTC
I have never ever been told that ever.

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drone_dragon July 24 2014, 20:07:10 UTC
Well allow me to be the first. AND FEEL FLATTERED!

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drone_dragon July 24 2014, 20:17:29 UTC
"Well, if only you were other!" Sounds like the perfect response for me to use! ^_^

Initially it's meant to come off as a nice comment, but I don't believe they recognize the boundaries that are created. It doesn't OFFEND me deeply to be declined indirectly in the guise of a compliment. But, if I wasn't seeking out the person out of attraction, it makes their comment ... awkward and unnecessary?

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vindonnus July 21 2014, 04:40:43 UTC
Yeah, I dun think I've been told that before either, but I'd imagine they are strongly to one end of the Kinsey scale and don't like to imagine you having characteristics of their unfavored gender.

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drone_dragon July 24 2014, 20:20:30 UTC
Oh Vin, you're such a man's man! How can we imagine you any other way?!
That's actually a good point, I never really saw it under the scope of the Kinsey scale which is relevant. Which would make it more of a "snark" rather than a "compliment"?

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vindonnus July 25 2014, 04:39:38 UTC
Perhaps, but I think gender normativity is worth considering... Also, I have liked ladies before. ;)

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