I am really getting sick of these nobody loser drama queens who decide to use these forums to rant and post and hurt and insult,when in the real world they would barely have the nerve to look you in the eye
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Like I posted to your wife, the person who did this wanted attention on themselves. I agree with what you both posted, and look forward to seeing you both with our other friends on Sunday.
sounds all too familar. similar situation I guess - was having problems with someone who wouldn't "talk" about it, so I vented on my lj (no names used)(and you wouldn't know who it was about unless it was you - type thing) and she posted back her thoughts (so essentially - she undisclosed herself)...and I was like WTF - you couldn't call me so we could talk shite/or you couldn't just talk to me when we were at the bar together?
it was so childish, so I broke off the "acquaintencship" because it wasn't worth the headache or the hassle. I mean - I was willing to overlook - what I considered to be her flaws - for the sake of having another female friend....but this one - drive me to a breaking point I had't seen in a LOOOOOONG time....grrrrr.....
anyways....just wanted to say - I like what you had to say...
It's actually not quite that simple. As I said to your friend in question when she called me on the phone...the months of silence before this was HER choice. She requested that the poster choose between two friends and when the poster wouldn't, she told the poster that the only other option was radio silence. SO...the poster could NOT discuss this with her, by her own request.
I advised said friend to call the poster if she wanted the info on why now? What happened to prompt this?
This is NOT about something 6 months old. This is NOT about the poster gaining some attention. This is about setting a particular bit of information straight. The poster told the part of the story that related to themselves...so that the truth about the poster's choices and decisions was out there.
If the post had been more general, had said things like "I've been hearing that I'm being criticized for not speaking with certain friends any longer. The truth is that I was told by them to choose between them and someone else that they had had a falling out with. When I continued my friendship with that someone else they chose not to associate with me any longer." ...ya know what, I'd back you 100% in your position that it's only about getting the truth about the poster's choices and decisions out there.
However, there was a WHOLE LOT of very personal information posted PUBLICALLY, information that was shared with the poster in confidence on a very very sensitive subject.... Sure, it would have taken a whole lot more effort to strip all that away and still present a clear post... but I think how both drklrdraven and I see this is that the concieveable reasons for NOT putting that effort in, involve things like striking out, being hurtful, disrespecting the friendship (even if that friendship is now over, it was in place at the time the
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Not to belabor the point, but if you're interested and if you haven't been reading the discussion between the poster and myself on her original post, I gave an example of how, in my oppinion, her post could have been written without the hurtful elements.
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it was so childish, so I broke off the "acquaintencship" because it wasn't worth the headache or the hassle. I mean - I was willing to overlook - what I considered to be her flaws - for the sake of having another female friend....but this one - drive me to a breaking point I had't seen in a LOOOOOONG time....grrrrr.....
anyways....just wanted to say - I like what you had to say...
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I advised said friend to call the poster if she wanted the info on why now? What happened to prompt this?
This is NOT about something 6 months old. This is NOT about the poster gaining some attention. This is about setting a particular bit of information straight. The poster told the part of the story that related to themselves...so that the truth about the poster's choices and decisions was out there.
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If the post had been more general, had said things like "I've been hearing that I'm being criticized for not speaking with certain friends any longer. The truth is that I was told by them to choose between them and someone else that they had had a falling out with. When I continued my friendship with that someone else they chose not to associate with me any longer." ...ya know what, I'd back you 100% in your position that it's only about getting the truth about the poster's choices and decisions out there.
However, there was a WHOLE LOT of very personal information posted PUBLICALLY, information that was shared with the poster in confidence on a very very sensitive subject.... Sure, it would have taken a whole lot more effort to strip all that away and still present a clear post... but I think how both drklrdraven and I see this is that the concieveable reasons for NOT putting that effort in, involve things like striking out, being hurtful, disrespecting the friendship (even if that friendship is now over, it was in place at the time the ( ... )
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I am adding you to my friends list, Mr Man.
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