Comments | drewandian: Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever. ~Keri Russell

drewandian

Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever. ~Keri Russell

Apr 04, 2015 12:38

Five years ago, I made one seemingly small decision that changed my life forever. That sounds so melodramatic, and at the time it didn't seem like it would be such a big deal, but as it turns out it was. To talk about the change, I have to talk about everything that lead up to it.

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god, change, rl

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abracah April 5 2015, 02:33:17 UTC

Congrats on the new job! I am so excited for you!! You have been through so much to get where you are. You are a stronger person for it.

drewandian April 6 2015, 12:57:36 UTC

Thanks! I'm really excited (and a little sad to leave the daycare) about starting this new chapter. Nothing like a complete career change at almost-40! LOL

And I really am so much stronger than I ever believed I was - it took all the chaos and rock-bottom mess to figure it out, but I don't regret a single step of this journey. Thanks for traveling this road with me all these years! <3

thothmes April 5 2015, 15:29:29 UTC

He is risen. May you be uplifted too.

This is a wonderful story, and although I am very glad for you, the best part for me is the healing that is happening and will continue to happen for your boys.

A new beginning, and a return of light and warmth.

And yes, you are right about forgiveness. Anger, bitterness, and hate are shackles, and it is the wearer that is tethered by them, not the object of those feelings. It is the chief of His lessons, isn't it? Love, even when it is hard, do not fear, and be free.

Edited for capitalization fail.

drewandian April 6 2015, 13:07:10 UTC

My boys have been through so much more than any little boys should have to go through. The allegations of abuse that were made against my ex-girlfriend were all false (which I had always known), but my ex-husband's ex-girlfriend abused them for the better part of three years - mentally, emotionally, verbally and physically. And my ex-husband knew it was happening. She's been out of the equation since right before Christmas, isn't allowed to contact them (well, wasn't allowed. The PFA has expired, unfortunately ( ... )

thothmes April 6 2015, 18:15:17 UTC

From everything I have seen, terrible and insecure people lead terrible and insecure lives, unable to know the peace and safety that living in love and with love brings.

I hope your boys will understand soon, if they do not already, that her actions against them, and indeed your ex's inaction was all about the insecurities and fears of their own lives, and had nothing to do with them. It's funny how we spend so much time trying to teach them to accept responsibility for their own actions, yet all too often, they seem to try to accept responsibility for all the ills of the world that happen in their young lives.

I know that you and your ex will do what needs to be done to help and support them. It is a wonderful thing that their faith can also sustain them.