<3 It sounds like the past month has been pretty rough, bb. I just remembered something my dad told me about the other day that I think is theoretically called the chasm of change, maybe I'm wrong about that, but it helps give me perspective about big changes.
When people think about change, they think cause and effect in a straight line like this: __________. But it's not really a straight line, there are these huge chasms (or gulfs? maybe they're gulfs) where all of this emotional chaos ensues. It's something that when he explains it to people in his work, they go "Oh yeah that!" but it's not really a feeling anyone talks about. Like you change something in your life, and suddenly you're struck with all of these whacked-out stressed emotions, like "Is this right? Is this okay?" and the instinct is to doubt yourself and often people are paralyzed in this moment of chaos.
Which might not actually be relevant to your situation at all, but you have just gone through a pretty big change. <3 And eventually if you keep chugging, it's
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When people think about change, they think cause and effect in a straight line like this: __________. But it's not really a straight line, there are these huge chasms (or gulfs? maybe they're gulfs) where all of this emotional chaos ensues. It's something that when he explains it to people in his work, they go "Oh yeah that!" but it's not really a feeling anyone talks about. Like you change something in your life, and suddenly you're struck with all of these whacked-out stressed emotions, like "Is this right? Is this okay?" and the instinct is to doubt yourself and often people are paralyzed in this moment of chaos.
Which might not actually be relevant to your situation at all, but you have just gone through a pretty big change. <3 And eventually if you keep chugging, it's ( ... )
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Hang in. <3 You know. We should try to make time for a phonecall.
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