Is Boderline Personality Disorder the ADD for adults? It seems you can't describe someone who creates drama without having some commented diagnose them with BPD.
I think that's why people who have been involved with them "see" them whether or not they are there. When I see someone described and they've got some of the traits, I think, "Possible Borderline. Run!" I rarely say it, but I do think it. Controlling, manipulative, emotionally abusive all scream borderline to me.
Of course it could also be a bunch of other things, but borderline personality disorder is what pops into my mind first EVERY time. It probably always will.
This. I am super sensitive to anything even a little bit BPD-seeming and I will end relationships over things looking like they're heading that way, because I'd frankly rather be a bitch than live through that again. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me for not running the hell away.
Bonus fun times: having one's primary caregiver parent through one's formative years be almost-certainly-borderline. (Can't say she is, as it's the rest of the universe that's wrong, certainly not her, so it's not like she'll ever have a diagnosis.)
Makes for a touchy, boundary-defensive adult who keeps records of everything so nobody can change the reality on me ....
Makes for a touchy, boundary-defensive adult who keeps records of everything so nobody can change the reality on me
I still have, on my hard drive and printed out, about 8 years worth of things the BPD person in my life wrote. Some of it's LJ, some of it's e-mail, some of it is from . . . other online sources.
I started that record while I was still living with the person, as my own attempt to hold onto what was or was not real. I maintained it afterwards, in no small part because said person braided their hair, cut it off, and then attached it to my apartment door with a note, and at that point, I was convinced that no one would ever back me up or believe me unless I had several years worth of proof to show that this wasn't all 'just in my head'.
I have frequently commented that if I tried to write up my mother, straight up, as a character in a novel, nobody would believe in her. She's just too fucking implausible.
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I've done my time in hell and I ain't going back.
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I really wish I was joking, there.
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I think that's why people who have been involved with them "see" them whether or not they are there. When I see someone described and they've got some of the traits, I think, "Possible Borderline. Run!" I rarely say it, but I do think it. Controlling, manipulative, emotionally abusive all scream borderline to me.
Of course it could also be a bunch of other things, but borderline personality disorder is what pops into my mind first EVERY time. It probably always will.
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Makes for a touchy, boundary-defensive adult who keeps records of everything so nobody can change the reality on me ....
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I still have, on my hard drive and printed out, about 8 years worth of things the BPD person in my life wrote. Some of it's LJ, some of it's e-mail, some of it is from . . . other online sources.
I started that record while I was still living with the person, as my own attempt to hold onto what was or was not real. I maintained it afterwards, in no small part because said person braided their hair, cut it off, and then attached it to my apartment door with a note, and at that point, I was convinced that no one would ever back me up or believe me unless I had several years worth of proof to show that this wasn't all 'just in my head'.
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So ... yeah. Evidence collections. I hear you.
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BPD and ADD are two discrete and different mental conditions.
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The possibility did cross my mind, by my inner pedant won out. ;p
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*picks up internet and shakes it*
*gives internet good hard thump*
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