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[luna_torquill]

Everyone repeat after me, please:

Posting long and incoherent suicidal ramblings to a public LiveJournal community does not count as therapy.

Please seek a professional. Truly, honestly. I mean that.

...and learn to use cut-tags.

Comments

[luna_torquill]

Actually, the hits I was finding for the "number" led to the Red Cross (specifically disaster help after Hurricane Katrina). It was, after all, a facetious title.

Deletion/banning seems a little harsh, especially for someone whose self-esteem is obviously that low (I've known acts of shunning to act as the last straw for honestly suicidal people). I do hope the mods have sent him an offline note to supplement the several people telling him to go seek help.

When you boil it down, it's just another example of using the community as one's private journal -- it's just a more extreme case.

[luna_torquill]

Having seen him now admit that he was trying to use the community to get a point across to her... yeah, I owe you an apology. :)

I'm still not going to slap him as hard as he probably deserves (I counseled a real, not attention-whore, near-suicide through to the other side last year, so I'm sensitive), but I see that you've taken care of that. Thank you.

[cinema_babe]

This is not the first time he's posted about the break up or how distraught he is and people suggested he get professional help.

Using a suicide threat as a ploy to get his ex-GF to pay attention to him is disturbing. Making the community hostage to his behavior is mean. He has no idea how many people who read his words might be survivors of suicide and this sort of thing can trigger all sorts of stuff.

[luna_torquill]

I don't usually read polyamory, so you'll have to forgive my ignorance. I consider the integrity of my brain cells to be of greater importance than tracking the repeat-offenders. ;)

[red_girl_42]

Using a suicide threat as a ploy to get his ex-GF to pay attention to him is disturbing.

I'd go a step farther and say that using a suicide threat to manipulate his ex is flat-out abusive.

He has no idea how many people who read his words might be survivors of suicide.

There's at least one of us.

[sxxk1ttn]

LOL moar butthurt!

[icecreamempress]

Yeah, well, actions speak louder than words, Captain Butthurt. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!

A good hotline for people feeling suicidal is the Samaritans--877-870-HOPE in the US.

[ishfirf]

Every time I see one of these posts outside of suicidal support groups I really would like to encourage them to kill themselves. Public threats of suicide (which ranges from inane shit like this to holding up traffic on bridges in several hour 'no really I'm gonna jump' standoffs) are the highest form of attention whoring.

[luna_torquill]

I never said that suicidal tendencies is why he needs help. ;)

Seriously, I think that drama queens of that degree are mentally ill to some extent. I usually figure that "seek professional help" works as a response to any suicidal note, as the professionals are capable of sorting out the truly suicidal from the attention-getters and figuring out a treatment for each.

After all, drama queens can't just "stop it and grow up" any more than most chronic alcoholics can. Attention fulfills a need. Counseling would help them deal with it without annoying the shit out of the rest of us.

[unearthingbone]

Public declarations of suicidal ideation can be viewed as "attention whoring" to some, but in every case, whether the suicidal person fully intends to commit suicide or not, there is often a strong and disturbing emotional root cause behind the public declaration of suicide. People who have tried other, more subtle mechanisms through which to cry out for help for another problem, related or not, will sometimes move to threatening suicide because that's big and noticeable. Oftentimes, they don't even consciously recognize that's what they're doing.

[tacky_tramp]

The irony is, she doesn't watch polyamory, but she does watch dot_poly_snark. I guess she'll see it now.

[luna_torquill]

Oh dear, I'm an enabler.

[ishfirf]

Edit your post to include a sekrit message to her saying to not take his phone calls?