Thank you, darling. The back deck is finished and just being able to go sit outside has helped my mood a bit. But the cough is persisting on, so we shall see about that one. <3
I'm super sorry that you're sick. I'm even sorrier that your mom had to move in with you. Farewell, privacy and freedom from stress.... :(
Get well soon, hon - and I bet the rising depression is due to the new living situation. Hopefully once you guys teach Mom her new personal and physical limits and boundaries, it'll work okay. Do you plan to sell her house?
I would hate Chuck e Cheese, but your skeeball strength will be as the strength of ten because your motives for descending into hell are pure and loving!
I'm super sorry that you're sick. I'm even sorrier that your mom had to move in with you. Farewell, privacy and freedom from stress.... :(
Over the past 6 weeks I have tried to send you an email about what was going on with her. I keep trying, but every time I go to do it, something else happens with her and I just get so overwhelmed. I never even knew where to start an email about all this shit. Even now, I came out on the back deck (it's finished!) to text with K about mom and my stress, and she followed me out here and is sitting across the table from me. Le sigh.
Get well soon, hon - and I bet the rising depression is due to the new living situation. Hopefully once you guys teach Mom her new personal and physical limits and boundaries, it'll work okay. Do you plan to sell her house?Oh hell yeah, the new living situation is causing the depression. It's the kind of isolation and cabin fever I only feel in Michigan winter of February. But it's June though, you know!? Mom is under the impression this will just be for the summer
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Oh honey. I guess she feels like her life is totally upturned and she's following you because she doesn't know what else to do with herself. Can we get her a hobby? Knitting? Learning to deal cards? Painting eggs? :P SOMETHING that takes time and focus and fiddly concentration to distract her?
In some ways it's a shame you can't put your Mom into the basement once it's redone... but I'm guessing the stairs would be an issue for her? Ugh, that's just so hard all around. YOU are going to need a Mom-free sanctuary, somehow. Are there any options for that? Ways to create the alone-time you need? I know if you make a schedule she just won't stick to it....
Oh my, I hope things work out OK with your mother living with you. So sorry about your depression. I hope it goes away soon
Thank you, darling!
Things are going to be awful with my mom living here. Mostly at this point, I just need to be alone. Like I feel crowded and claustrophobic. She talks A LOT and every time I turn around, all day, she is there. Sis at least gets to go to work, damn! But I'll get used to it eventually.
It's weird to be depressed in the middle of the summer weather, that never happens. It's usually in the winter that I get depressed because I am stuck indoors more then. The back deck is finished though, so I have an extra 'room' now and a chance to get some sun and I go back to counseling in July, so hopefully things will smooth out. Thanks for the love. <3
Oh no, your mom? Well I guess we'll hear soon what that is about. I am so sorry, though.
Mostly it's about her BP dropping out for no reason and her mental status being altered and her not taking care of herself at home, like not drinking, eating or taking her meds and refusing help and peeing her bed and not telling anyone until we find her in her own urine. It's like she has dementia except it's all coming from the BP and whatever the root cause of that is, but we don't know what the root cause is! By living here, we can give her the best quality of life possible. For her. Clearly not the best possible for us.
And I wouldn't be surprised if that is what is contributing to your depression. Sending many good thoughts your way!Oh, absolutely! I am feel crowded, claustrophobic, cabin fever, isolated, overwhelmed and an using way too many spoons just by not having my normal quiet level throughout the day. It's also probably a root cause of why I got a chest cold. I am using all my spoons just trying to talk with her (mostly
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That's a lot, my friend. A lot.
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Okay, valid. I'll give you that. ;) The summer is here in full stride and my quiet life has been upended. (More so than usual this time of year.).
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Thank you, darling. The back deck is finished and just being able to go sit outside has helped my mood a bit. But the cough is persisting on, so we shall see about that one. <3
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Get well soon, hon - and I bet the rising depression is due to the new living situation. Hopefully once you guys teach Mom her new personal and physical limits and boundaries, it'll work okay. Do you plan to sell her house?
I would hate Chuck e Cheese, but your skeeball strength will be as the strength of ten because your motives for descending into hell are pure and loving!
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Over the past 6 weeks I have tried to send you an email about what was going on with her. I keep trying, but every time I go to do it, something else happens with her and I just get so overwhelmed. I never even knew where to start an email about all this shit. Even now, I came out on the back deck (it's finished!) to text with K about mom and my stress, and she followed me out here and is sitting across the table from me. Le sigh.
Get well soon, hon - and I bet the rising depression is due to the new living situation. Hopefully once you guys teach Mom her new personal and physical limits and boundaries, it'll work okay. Do you plan to sell her house?Oh hell yeah, the new living situation is causing the depression. It's the kind of isolation and cabin fever I only feel in Michigan winter of February. But it's June though, you know!? Mom is under the impression this will just be for the summer ( ... )
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In some ways it's a shame you can't put your Mom into the basement once it's redone... but I'm guessing the stairs would be an issue for her? Ugh, that's just so hard all around. YOU are going to need a Mom-free sanctuary, somehow. Are there any options for that? Ways to create the alone-time you need? I know if you make a schedule she just won't stick to it....
Wow. That's some serious volume, honey!
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Thank you, darling!
Things are going to be awful with my mom living here. Mostly at this point, I just need to be alone. Like I feel crowded and claustrophobic. She talks A LOT and every time I turn around, all day, she is there. Sis at least gets to go to work, damn! But I'll get used to it eventually.
It's weird to be depressed in the middle of the summer weather, that never happens. It's usually in the winter that I get depressed because I am stuck indoors more then. The back deck is finished though, so I have an extra 'room' now and a chance to get some sun and I go back to counseling in July, so hopefully things will smooth out. Thanks for the love. <3
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And I wouldn't be surprised if that is what is contributing to your depression. Sending many good thoughts your way!
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Mostly it's about her BP dropping out for no reason and her mental status being altered and her not taking care of herself at home, like not drinking, eating or taking her meds and refusing help and peeing her bed and not telling anyone until we find her in her own urine. It's like she has dementia except it's all coming from the BP and whatever the root cause of that is, but we don't know what the root cause is! By living here, we can give her the best quality of life possible. For her. Clearly not the best possible for us.
And I wouldn't be surprised if that is what is contributing to your depression. Sending many good thoughts your way!Oh, absolutely! I am feel crowded, claustrophobic, cabin fever, isolated, overwhelmed and an using way too many spoons just by not having my normal quiet level throughout the day. It's also probably a root cause of why I got a chest cold. I am using all my spoons just trying to talk with her (mostly ( ... )
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