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dodger_sister

It's Sexist, That's What It Is.

Feb 18, 2015 20:25

Why are so many people of the opinion that being a stay-at-home dad is ‘doing nothing’? You should hear some of the things people in my family say about my little brother, just because he doesn’t have a ‘job’. It’s so sexist. If it were his wife who chose to stay home and take care of the kids, she’d be doing her duty as a wife and mother. But ( Read more... )

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shirebound February 19 2015, 01:44:52 UTC

I'm sorry to hear that he's not getting the support he deserves.

dodger_sister February 25 2015, 20:34:36 UTC

I'm sorry to hear that he's not getting the support he deserves.

He really never has. We have one aunt who is quite proud of my brother and of course my sister and I support him, but everyone else in the family looks down on him, more or less. It makes me sad for him how outside the family he is.

crucis01 February 19 2015, 01:57:49 UTC

You are so spot on with this. I was a stay at home mom till my kids started school and you would not believe the crap I heard. "Oh you don't have a real job?" " It must be nice to stay home and do nothing all day!" etc.
Your brother is proving himself a better dad than many out there. For what it's worth I think he rocks! He's taken on one of the toughest, if not THE toughest job in the world. Remind him it's also one of the most rewarding emotionally he will ever do. Hugs and kudos from me.

dodger_sister February 25 2015, 20:39:04 UTC

You are so spot on with this. I was a stay at home mom till my kids started school and you would not believe the crap I heard. "Oh you don't have a real job?" " It must be nice to stay home and do nothing all day!" etc.

People underestimate how hard raising kids is! I think I also get mad about this because I worked in child care for so many years and people used to say to me things like, "Oh what an easy job, baby sitting," and it pissed me off. Everyone goes around spouting off how the children are our future and yet they don't understand how much work that actually takes.

Your brother is proving himself a better dad than many out there. For what it's worth I think he rocks! He's taken on one of the toughest, if not THE toughest job in the world. Remind him it's also one of the most rewarding emotionally he will ever do. Hugs and kudos from me.

Thank you! I am so disappointed in what old timey views my family has on gender roles and I am hoping more dads like my brother will start to change the tide on that!

vikingprincess February 19 2015, 02:04:06 UTC

My husband's family has that jackassey attitude toward his younger brother, who handles home schooling, home management, and a custom furniture business on the side. It's pretty infuriating.

dodger_sister February 25 2015, 20:44:46 UTC

My husband's family has that jackassey attitude toward his younger brother, who handles home schooling, home management, and a custom furniture business on the side. It's pretty infuriating.Do they even know what century this is? For crying out loud ( ... )

vikingprincess February 26 2015, 00:45:02 UTC

Grrrrrr on behalf of your brother!

lindahoyland February 19 2015, 02:11:06 UTC

He should be applauded not got at.

dodger_sister February 25 2015, 20:45:50 UTC

He should be applauded not got at.

Thank you! This idea that my brother needs to be the one paying the bills just because he is the man is so outdated and I am shocked at my family's narrow views.

ceitfianna February 19 2015, 04:54:57 UTC

Your brother is awesome and your family is being stupid. Its wonderful that he stays at home. My brother and his wife balance two jobs between them with school and other stuff and its stressful. *hugs*

dodger_sister February 25 2015, 20:51:25 UTC

Your brother is awesome and your family is being stupid.

Thank you, bb. I just can't believe some of the things these people say. Guy Cousin said to me once how my brother 'doesn't even take care of his family' because he doesn't have a job and I was all, "What century is this?" My brother works just as hard as a stay-at-home dad as GC does at his delivery job, but when GC has a day off, he drinks himself into a blackout state, while my brother spends his days off running errands for my dad and planting trees and other volunteer work. He certainly isn't a saint by any means and he still needs to work on his patience issues with the kids, but he works hard to not be our father, to not be absent from his kids life and to never raise a hand to them. My dad worked 60 hours a week and paid the bills and put food on our table but he was rarely involved in our lives and when he was home we walked around on eggshells all the time. My brother deserves some support for it.