Various Rambling

[docbrite]

Life is confusing lately. I feel pulled in a lot of different directions. I have an unbreakable bond with Chris, but for years we've lived more like a pair of slobby old bachelor brothers than like an actual couple. In fact, we recently decided our official designation is "soul brothers." Things are getting very hot and heavy with Grey, to the

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[anaisdjuna]

"we clicked really, really strongly, like you only do a few times in a lifetime."

I needed to hear this phrase, so thanks.

I, for one, would NOT want unisex bathrooms. Men for the most part behave like vile pigs in bathrooms and render them virtually indistinguishable from pigpens. Also, I so would not feel safe going into an enclosed space where genitals are on the mind with male people. I wouldn't even like it in The Neth (where I lived for 4 years) even though most Dutch men are of a higher order than Americans. I've seen what too much beer and an Ajax victory can do to the Dutch male mind and it's not pretty.

I'd be totally up for transwomen and heh, women in general to do their excretory business in a civilized manner though.

[vintagehandbag]

I really appreciate when places do the "men's room, women's room, family/non-gendered room" approach to bathroom labeling. I've seen it in a gym in town, and at a couple different airports. I know it's not the best solution, ever, but it seems like a good one for a kind of cultural transition as we sort of get over binary gender thinking.

[ursuscelticus]

I can totally relate to the avoidance of public restrooms thing. I did that for a long time after I started to transition. Hell, even before I transitioned, I tended to get the "excuse me, sir, you're in the ladies room..." thing. But after I started to transition, I was even more afraid of being called out for being in the "wrong" restroom by guys. Probably because I was more afraid of the potential for violence. Even after being on T for several years and having top surgery, it took awhile before I wasn't still on hyper-alert going into public restrooms. It's been over 7 years now, and there are places I'm still not comfortable going. I've been in the men's locker room at my gym exactly once. Even now, I change before I leave work to head for the gym, and then don't change again until I get home. Then there are times like last weekend, headed home from a road trip, when I went into the restroom of a truck stop wearing my kilt and flagging orange & pirate on the left, totally by accident, I swear! It wasn't until I got back to the

[linakauno]

Life is complicated and so are relationships. They almost never stay static, but change through the years. It's lovely to be in love, but I've found that there is sometimes a steep price to pay. I wish you the best.

I've used the men's room in clubs at times because the line for the women's room was really long, but regretted it as drunk men do not aim very well, if at all.

[ceewayne]

Dude

Happy that this is working out for you.