My boyfriend has a friend who's now 24, she had a child when she was 16... I can't stand her, alot of it is because she had a child at 16 and payed NO consequence for it.
She has a great job, but her own parents do most of the parenting and she goes out every weekend at night like any other person at 24....
It furstrates me, it's such a tender topic for me; I hate it when people say about her 'oh look being a teen parent can be a positive thing' and I feel like saying she's only really being a part time parent regardless.
That said. If I could have the child i was going to have at 19... well 20 by the time it would'vebeen born. I totally would have. Maybe it's possible?
two of my mother's best friends in high school got pregnant when they were 16. i dont reall see one of them very much anymore, but i grew up with both their families. they both had kids around my age, as well as the older ones. one of the women, i still see. she ended up having 5 kids all together. she was a wonderful mom. she had to grow up early. it is possible. i think though, that when a 16 year old WANTS to get pregnant, that is a problem. It's an immature decision. Many girls just want to be moms cuz they hate their own moms (or think they do). A 16 year old can be capable of raising good kids, but it's really hard. i think that when they ask their mom's for help raising their own kids, however, it is a good thing, not a weakness. cuz it may be unfair to the parents, but it is a lot of pressure for a 16 year old to handle on their own. Admitting they need help is a sign of strength. The girl you speak of is lucky to have parents who helped her out, rather than had she been kicked out and forced to do it alone. And her kids are
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She was with the dad for the next 5-6 years until they broke up, then she moved back home... it's really beyond 'helping out' it seems like her parents raise the kid.
I guess there's a huge difference in maturity from 16 >>> 20 >>> 24 really anyway.
wow. i didnt know you had an aunt and uncle in brookline. that is where i went to high school. i am not from there but i got to take a taxi there every day for 2 1/2 years for special ed school which i loved. thats cool they are moving to glaucester too, cuz its really beautiful there. sorry they have only 1 bedroom.
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She has a great job, but her own parents do most of the parenting and she goes out every weekend at night like any other person at 24....
It furstrates me, it's such a tender topic for me; I hate it when people say about her 'oh look being a teen parent can be a positive thing' and I feel like saying she's only really being a part time parent regardless.
That said. If I could have the child i was going to have at 19... well 20 by the time it would'vebeen born. I totally would have. Maybe it's possible?
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She was with the dad for the next 5-6 years until they broke up, then she moved back home... it's really beyond 'helping out' it seems like her parents raise the kid.
I guess there's a huge difference in maturity from 16 >>> 20 >>> 24 really anyway.
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One of the dads was a 20something year old homeless dude. Desperate times, eh?
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thats cool they are moving to glaucester too, cuz its really beautiful there. sorry they have only 1 bedroom.
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