Comments | dizzy_gazelle: So when should a marriage officially end?

dizzy_gazelle

So when should a marriage officially end?

Aug 29, 2005 15:20

I'm not sure why but Jer lies to my face and constantly breaks down my trust. He's just so passive aggressive. He says he'll do something then doesn't do it so he won't have to say he disagrees with me and start a conflict but gets his damn way in the end. I've just been trying so hard lately to not be hurt by trusting him over and over since I ( Read more... )

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patsysjewels August 30 2005, 05:29:12 UTC

awwww. darlin i feel so bad things like the marriage are not going well. you know they say we pick guys that we need to work out things we didn't in our family of origin.
it certainly does sound like you are on different planets...but men are from mars and women are from venus...how true.

i don't like the fact that the internet porn is going on. my counselor says that is the new *crack* of sex addiction. it escalates and is a hard addiction to overcome.

i just hope you find a support group of women you can vent with....and figure out what's really what.

marriage is so hard. i don't know if i ever want to do it again. i wish you well and support any decision you come up with. mucho hugs back. you can do this....whatever you decide. you are a trooper....and very aware for your age. hang in there and ask your god, creator for divine guidance and you will know soon...lean on the spirit...it never fails.

love you! patsy

buttonfluff August 30 2005, 11:32:53 UTC

Hiya ( ... )

dizzy_gazelle September 6 2005, 05:39:09 UTC

No problem you're a busy girl too;) Yeah, we've really had our issues even from the beginning of our dating. I think the stress from moving/him leaving is really intesifying my distress but the issues are real as ever. We had another huge fight right after Jer left for AZ and he hung the phone up on me because I was so upset about everything. It bothers me a lot when he shuts down and shuts me out like that. Yup, marriage really has changed from those 50s shows I used to watch on tvland as a kid. I really do think like Patsy said I picked Jeremy on some unconscious level to work out my parent's marriage problems. Wish I didn't love him so much or it'd make it so much easier:P He's been encouraging me to date girls while he's away as well which is fairly confusing ( ... )

dizzy_gazelle September 6 2005, 05:26:07 UTC

You're so right and it's so great to know it's not just me being paranoid:) Things are still pretty rocky and now that Jer's in AZ I just hope things improve more than disinegrate. Marriage certainly is a lot of work and seems even harder when the other half keeps emotionally/physically disappearing. Oh well here's some hugs I'm sure you need!

Lots of love!

Jaime