Ugh

[displaced_kiwi]

I don't really want to spend every weekend of my life in Philly. My weekends are for laundry and grocery shopping and cleaning and generally getting ready for the next week. If I miss all that everything is out of whack for the next week. This month, I have only been in NY for one weekend. I feel exhausted

Comments

[peary101]

I think you should write her an email. Just politely let her know that you are more than willing to contribute but you can only do so much. You always do a great job writing tactful emails that argue your point but in a nice way, so i think you can and should do it. Good luck

[skoonie_lou_who]

a) brian finally proposed officially? thats great :)

b) dont let this crazy person run your bank account. you should totaly email her. the only thing is the bringing your own food - its a good idea but i thought catering costs were based on a range of guests? like 10-30 people costs $x and 40-60 people costs $y? im sure you can work something out. especially since you may not even be able to attend

c) 5 weddings in a year! im tapped after 2 and thats just paying for gifts

[displaced_kiwi]

I am only in 5---- I have 8 to attend (though 3 down, 5 to go). Crazy year of weddings!

[ebaa5]

i would definitely write her an email. like JP said...you do an amazing talent writing those sorts of emails and letters. i mean, you are able to give what you are able to give....and if the MOH doesn't like it and still wants it catered....she can fork out your share too. is it just you and her or are there other girls as well...and....have they made their opinions known? perhaps if the other girls feel the same...you can veto her idea. my family always does it either pot luck or homemade food as well....it is just so much cheaper and easier that way... good luck with it and let us know how you make out

[displaced_kiwi]

Thanks for all of the advice guys!

I talked to my sister, and she is really upset too. She just bought a house at year, and we all know that ain't a cheap investment. So she too is strapped for cash. She was just planning on going ahead with it, and suffering in silence.

I convinced her that if we both write an email to the similar effect "we can't afford this, let's talk about other options" then the girl has to get a little bit more realistic about the whole thing.

I have a feeling KOs sisters don't have this kind of money either, so might also appreciate our saying something. THough I am not sure.