Post-Con blues + the usual.

[discounttherapy]

1. DragonCon was very fun. Squidz and I got along as well as we ever have. No sex, but it felt like we were Together, partners. Partly because that's how the people we know there see us, but partly because we functioned that way and were also very affectionate and thankful for having each other. It felt good. I hope that I can take that good

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Dealing with orchids

[victorine]

Is there some sort of word or phrase he can use to let you know that he's not feeling good about how you just treated him? I don't know how you usually resolve things, but it seems like it would be better to be called out immediately, apologize, and move on. (says she who avoids confrontation with the Mr. like nobody's business!)

We always feel the post-con blues. All weekend we're with like minded people, having interesting conversations, being stimulated in different ways than we're used to. Then all of a sudden everyone packs up and goes home. While it's nice to have the quiet, we miss the comraderie. We've also been eating a lot differently than we normally do, and that can cause all kinds of chemical unpleasantness. Being in the haven of home with a purring velcro kitty helps though.

So, I think a conversation followed by hot sex, a heavy dose of fiber, and a kick ass birthday party would set you to rights soon!

[rentravler]

Ugh. I'm really glad that DragonCon went well, but I'm sad to hear that things with Trousers are repeating old patterns. I'm glad you are realizing that his perfection issues are his, and not yours, and that feelings aren't reality. It is unreasonably and irrational for him to even think of expecting anything close to perfection--it is just setting you up for failure. "And expectation is a premeditated resentment." As for the party, I would just try to let all of the issues with Trousers go and try to have a good time for you. You deserve it! And splurge on therapy if you need it. If *is* your birthday, after all.

Greetings.

[omni_ferret]

I haven't been around very much. I wanted to wish you a happy birthday, & I hope that Portland is treating you well. Despite your current blahness, I have all sorts of faith in your strength & self-knowledge & your capacity to actually deal with it.

[anonymous]

Just catching up after a while... sorry to hear about you and squid, though it does seem like a natural continuation of trends. What rentraveler said about emotions and perfection. yeah, right on! RE mention of kid in earlier post-- obviously I don't understand the concept, and KG says to me regularly "i'm so glad we didn't have kids," but yeah, circumstances now seem less than ideal. Which is what people who don't have kids say, until they realize the time has past, except in the rare instance where they take affirmative action to preclude the possibility, whereas people that do have kids just have them and work it all out. or something. I guess I am expressing concern with the idea of having a kid during your gap year, and qualifying my concern with an acknowlegement that someone with a vasectomy is coming from a particular point of view, and qualifying that qualification that everyone is coming from a particular point of view on this topic.

Yours amidst our moving craziness,
B