I know some people that are in bad relationships and a ton of people that have been in them. Many of these people, though self-respecting in other ways, don't recognize how bad their relationships are both because they are so used to dysfunctional relationships that they seem normal or because it's easier to deny the problem than address it. So, I
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I just don't know how much it good it does those that really need it.
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Checking up on the other person
Showing up unexpectedly
Keeping track of where the other person is
Doing all of the daily planning
Controlling all of the finances
Unfairly blaming the other person
Putting the other person down
Not paying attention to the other person
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I do all of that, with a few exceptions. Our relationship is not abusive or dysfunctional. I think that using that list might be good as a general guide, but to insinuate that all relationships that "commit" any of these ARE abusive relationships are wrong. Every relationship is unique and different, and I find it quite abhorrent to say that I'm abusive because of how our relationship's dynamic works.
My $0.02.
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And there ends my $0.02.
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You, however, are much more eloquent than I. My husband calls me a stinky cow (and much worse) and it is all endearing, although I doubt outsiders could possibly understand. Yes...lack of consent is what creates the difference.
Again thanks for the clarifying.
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