Comments | dimers: and a way more serious post

dimers

and a way more serious post

Oct 15, 2009 18:47

I'm in a state of financial crisis. Debts are mounting, I've got big expenses coming up soon, and I seem to have a serious mental block against finding regular paying work (not like it's easy to find in this economy anyway, but seriously, I just can't seem to try it the way I need to). The only reason I'm not in trouble right now is that I've ( Read more... )

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paper_crystals October 15 2009, 23:24:39 UTC

*HUGS*

dimers October 15 2009, 23:39:41 UTC

Thank you! And/or spank you. As you prefer. =)

paper_crystals October 15 2009, 23:41:01 UTC

I don't prefer spanking but thank you for asking. :)

omimouse October 16 2009, 01:13:32 UTC

-hughughug-

You've got our contact info if you need to talk, hon.

dimers October 16 2009, 02:28:23 UTC

Thank you, Omi. I know. It's even harder for me to actually T-A-L-K about than to write about (and obviously that's pretty hard, considering how long I've been sitting on some of this). I have your email address too, and I'm more likely to use that. But if I need someone to hear me in the immediate, I'll remember you're available.

ceelove October 16 2009, 03:32:38 UTC

Well, just from reading the above, it sounds like moving in with Jen would be a healthier choice for you - in part, because it would be facing a fear, and you would likely feel proud of yourself for that.

dimers October 16 2009, 12:03:21 UTC

Healthier, yah. I don't do a very good job being proud of myself, but if I succeed in navigating the treacherous waters that sank previous Relation Ships, I'll certainly feel better in some form(s).

fernling October 16 2009, 22:40:10 UTC

Still busy considering my response to the meat of this entry, but in response to just this one-liner....
I've got pride issues. Have we talked about that? I'm curious whether your pride probs develop the same way mine do....
I'll call you later, bebbebro.

dimers October 17 2009, 05:15:24 UTC

Have we talked about that?

Not to my recollection. Mighta been covered during some other overarching topic, but nothing is standing out in my brain.

merkabazen October 16 2009, 05:04:11 UTC

If you are having a decision crisis about where to go let me offer my two cents. I agree with ceelove. If anotherjen is open to the idea and understands where you are coming from, she knows what to expect. Plus romantic relationships should not be ended just for financial issues. Moving with your grandfather just sounds like giving up. I'm not giving you permission to give up so that option is out ( ... )

dimers October 16 2009, 11:58:52 UTC

Well, the decision is pretty clear. I feel like moving in with Grampa would be a really bad idea for me -- it'd just let me survive longer than I currently can. Mere survival doesn't compare with getting a chance at improvement. But there's more than my needs involved, of course. anotherjen may live with her landlords, but they do exist and they have some say in the decision, and the move puts new stresses on her and her daughter, and I would be moving in for the wrong reasons which makes our relationship-work harder. And I don't want to leave my excellent current housemates hanging, of course (I've got no legal obligation, but I don't treat people like shit just because it's permissible). So there's still a lot to consider.

luluisme October 16 2009, 14:12:43 UTC

~hugs~ - money issues are always stressful ( ... )

dimers October 16 2009, 15:47:18 UTC

I would err on the side of telling them earlier rather than later.

Well, they all have access to my LJ, so if I weren't 'out' already ... =) I wrote an email to explain a short time before posting this. Much less than ideal, but the thought process only started a few days ago, so the situation is inherently much less than ideal.

That's excellent random open-ended advice, thanks!