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What women want? When?

Jul 12, 2007 08:14

Julie Steenhuysen (Reuters, 2007) reported on new research Monday into heterosexual women's selection preferences. The article focuses on UCLA's David Frederick, who made news as a graduate student by suggesting that women did not make long-term partners of the sexiest males (HeathInformation.com, 2005). His presentation as a grad student focused ( Read more... )

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Comments 6

epi_lj July 12 2007, 13:34:29 UTC

I don't really get the idea of measuring that muscular men have had more dating partners as an indication of much. I mean, yes, it could mean that they're more desirable, but it also could mean that they're less capable of sustaining long-term relationships.

ukelele July 12 2007, 13:52:37 UTC

Huh, the "going anywhere" attitude makes total sense to me ( ... )

deadkytty9 July 12 2007, 15:28:30 UTC

Personally, even more than the "desire for marriage/children" thing (I'm pretty young, so that's not a big issue yet), the reason I wouldn't want to stay in a relationship that isn't 'going anywhere' is that I would start to get more emotionally involved than the other person, even if I try to avoid it. If they are not interested in that, I will _theoretically_ cut things off so as not to get hurt. Make sense?

chaoticset July 26 2007, 14:21:44 UTC

My theory is that it troubles me because it implies that people have a worth measurable in what they're willing to give me.

Which is true, you can measure people that way, but...well, I found out I'm not right for someone else recently, and I don't consider the time wasted -- I have a much better sense of who and what I want in my life, because this person did nothing wrong to me, and we still couldn't make "us" work out.

Nothing is a waste of time that makes us better people...and that includes relationships, deep or otherwise.

differenceblog July 26 2007, 14:56:31 UTC

Nothing is a waste of time that makes us better people...and that includes relationships, deep or otherwise.

That's one of the main issues I have with the "what would you tell yourself at 16" memes that makes the rounds every few months. While it's tempting to save myself heartbreak that I've gone through in the past, by warning myself against people who didn't make me happy, it would mean there would be a lot of lessons I would miss out on learning, and I don't see how that is a good thing.

chaoticset July 26 2007, 15:07:57 UTC

I have the issues with it too, but I still think about it every now and then.