Till death do us part

[dieseldawn]

When we had our second meeting with the priest, he tried to explain that marriage was for life, and it was literally, till death do you part. He also put in the caveat that you are not allowed to kill your spouse to marry another, as you would be contravening canon law (the law for catholics). Heh

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[kopibren]

I would only consider (b) if they become equally shit headed. I would go for option (e) and try to get to know the partner if the friend is really important to me. But I don't think my really close friends will end up in that situation as they have good taste, haha.

[dieseldawn]

yeah i know what you mean. Lots of people 'change' after they get married. It's scary.

I think i will change. But i hope for the better as Pman is really more diplomatic than me and heaven knows, he tries to train me.

So what is your answer to the first question? For better or for worse?

[kopibren]

I would say for worse unless it's intolerable. I'm not going to take literal readings of scripture.

I think Podge is good for you.

[hposnm]

First question: (A). Divorce isn't an option. However, that's not to say I should have to tolerate bad behaviours (of violence/infidelity etc). So I will physically detatch myself from the situation until things get better, always believing (however misplaced the faith may be), that things will get better.

Second question:(C) but I'll also hang around because someday she'll realise he's a piece of crap and on the day she walks away from home physically, I'll be there (with my spare room door open) for her until the situation improves.

For better or worse doesn't mean you don't have a responsibility towards protecting your children or being sensible like 'fighting back'. To me, it's like the concept of biblical (female) submission which is often interpreted as subservience.

[dieseldawn]

yeah. maybe divorce is not an option. but estrangement is.

And why do you choose to say nothing and smooth it over, while wishing she realises that he's crap? I think it's better to tell her diplomatically, following your logic.

[hposnm]

I fear I may lose the friendship, which to me, is worse because then I won't have a chance to hug her and dry her tears when she really needs it. (I'm assuming she'll behave like me -- which is to seek comfort in the arms of people who aren't likely to go "I told you so!" or who'd previously told me he sucked.)

But it could also be because I'm not the confrontational sort.