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devotedtodreams

It's over now

Mar 30, 2011 18:12

Breaking news:

Y'all, consider the relationship between me and Dima as over. I'm 99.9% sure that I drew the line today, and I don't think he will (try to) cross it.

I wrote him a final email on Monday, explaining my emotions (yet again). I tried very hard to write properly yet hopefully in a way that was understandable. (I showed it to Mom, and she ( Read more... )

dima, serious biz

Comments 6

emanga March 30 2011, 21:24:01 UTC

Aw jeez, I'm sorry he turned out to be such a twit. But y'know what? Better you find out now then when you're married or something. *shudder*

Sounds like you made the right call; simply firing your own question back at you was a shitty move on his part. Good riddance, I say. You deserve way better than that.

*hugs*
♥

devotedtodreams March 30 2011, 21:44:15 UTC

I'm sorry too. But like you pointed out, it's best that I realized it now instead of after marriage... or even before I applied for my Russian visa, for that matter o_O ( ... )

thefeistage March 31 2011, 02:03:20 UTC

(Don't ever apologize for ranting - that's what friends are for, they listen to your rants and let you vent. :) If someone can't listen to your rants, then they really aren't the best friend (at least, that's my philosophy ( ... )

devotedtodreams March 31 2011, 16:14:32 UTC

(Ah, I've just been feeling like an incredible burden because I've been talking about that so much... I was hating myself for it, so I thought I probably don't even wanna imagine what it's like for my friends. Especially I'm quite unusual in the sense that I willingly talk about that in greater detail than most people I know do. Whenever I get asked why I am like that, I explain that when I get upset (and consequentially impossible to be around), I want people to have a beforehand idea what could be the cause for that, as opposed to them thinking that I'm simply incredibly bitchy... xD ( ... )

ahmerst March 31 2011, 04:37:46 UTC

I'm sorry that things between you and Dima haven't really worked out, but I'm very, very proud of you and the way you've handled it.

In relationships, or really, at the end, one of two questions are usually asked. Either, "Did I do too much (too pushy, clingy, that sort of thing?" Or, "Did I do too little?"

But I think you realize this isn't your fault, and that's a great thing to know. You gave yourself fully to this relationship and did all you could, and yet you're able to come to terms and understand that if Dima isn't the one, that's that.

A lot of girls will try to force a relationship to work long after it's gone bad. It's good to accept things won't work out and move on as best you can.

I feel like you deserve nothing but the best. If Dima can't see what a wonderful catch you are, can't return the emotional aspect in the relationship, he doesn't understand what a truly wonderful person you are.

devotedtodreams March 31 2011, 16:25:32 UTC

Yeah, same here... Yesterday I worried a bit if I might have come across as too bitchy or something, but I changed my mind and relaxed after I finally slept through the entire night for a change and woke up feeling oddly relaxed and at ease ( ... )